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writes:I'm 22 and my girlfriend of 3 years just recently told me she has been talking to some guy on the phone. The thing is it started about 5 days after we ran into an ex of mine that made a huge scene and said she's still with me. Then about a week later a couple people told her I was messing around on her. So we broke up for a couple days because she was confused and needed time to think. At this point she had been talking to this guy for about 4 days. I was calling her and she said it was hard to talk to me because she would be happy then get angry about what happend. Then about a week after that I found out she's been talking to some dude she knew in high school. She said that she never went anywhere with or had in physical contact with him. I want to believe her but something in me wonders if she did have sex with him. She says he's not even her type which I believe and that she only talked to hime because the conversation was issue free. Here's where it gets tricky. I have cheated on her and she doesn't know about it. I have totally changed though and want a straight up relationship. The thought of her kissing him and or having sex is killing me. Is this my guilt or did she cheat? Can someone help me?
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reader, alicespring  +, writes (18 June 2007):
 if you want a straight relationship, u gotta have to be straight as well!!!btw tell how it is by the guys because If Im really in love with someone and when I know that this person loves me as well I cant even look at the other guys because I thinking about my guy anyway !if that happens its definitely sign that something is wrong in the relationship so its always better to talk about it !!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2007): Hi love,
The guilt is kicking in big time, its killing you to think of what your girl is up to, it has probably done her head in with all that has happened just lately. Thats without her knowing you were unfaithfull...
My husband was unfaithfull i new without anyone telling me just from his behaviour change, i had to finish the relationship before someone actually told me.
If you want an honest relationship love you have to come clean and risk loosing her i no its not what you want to hear but because you were unfaithfull you have doubts in your mind about what she is doing thats were the guilt comes in... If my husband had told me the truth which i asked on many occation then i may have tryed to work things out and i say may as its a hard situation to be in when you love someone, i can only advise you to tell the truth and learn from your mistakes that is the only way the guilt will go im sorry TAKE CARE xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2007): wether it works out or not you have to be honest with her ASAP, or it is defenetly over if she finds out from someone else.
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