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anonymous
writes:There is this girl. I had a thing for her since we were 12. I had moved continents when I was 12. I only got in contact with her when I was 18, we started chatting since last October. We used to chat basically every day. Our timezone was different so it was awkward but she messaged me on facebook when she came back from college, she went to college from 6 am to 10 am. When she messaged me it used to be 5/6 am (daylight saving time). Funny thing is she knew I had to wake up that early and she knew I had a thing for her, well more than a thing. She still messaged me. I used to tell her she was beautiful and she used to compliment me on my looks and my intellingence, however rare(er) that was. She even used to say some things about me she didn't like. She once said I was a showoff... lol. She also said she doesn't like drinkers (I drink) she asked me if I smoke or do drugs. She once asked me about my dad and my mom and my brother. We had a thing going.Little did I know she was playing me. I seriously thought we were destined for eachother. But Like I said, she played me like a fool.She stopped talking to me 2 months ago, I found it really hard.I finally stopped thinking about her but I realized it's her birthday (It wasn't facebook telling me, I actually knew it lol.) I sent her a birthday wish. She sent me a message back 10/15 days later (she stopped coming online since we stopped talking, I have stopped going to it and, we stopped liking eachothers' pics and posts, and yes she is still my friend on it). On the reply she sent back, "Thanks for the wish. BTW where are you now a days? Lost?"I know its nothing but I regret sending that message because since then I haven't stopped thinking about her. I mean she just said few things but still... she is the one who stopped talking to me and how dare she implys that I am the one who has't been talking to her. I mean she was the one who broke all the dreams that the 12 year old inside me had. she hurt me and now all I am thinking is her. :/What am I supposed to do? Should I send a reply to that? Should I not? Should I delete her? What am I supposed to do? I mean until I let my dreams go, I won't love anyone else... :/ Sorry for a long post. I didn't need to post all the details but I really wanted anyone reading this to know everything... Thank you so much for reading, anyone who made it this far.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2012): Ok what did she do exactly that was so wrong?? You were 12 years old! You were both kids. Did she just ignore your texts? If so then yes move on, but maybe it was just a misunderstanding?
You need to explain how you feel, if its a long distance thing, how can she be expected to really know how you feel if she is not physically in your company. Its all very well coming on here saying how you feel, but she may not be aware of it.
Talk to her and if its meant to be, she'll understand and work things through with you. If not, then move on. If you really want to improve things the only way is to talk, tell her these hope and dreams that you have. She may want the same. Of course after talking if it doesn't work at least you can say that you tried and gave it your all.
Contact her and have a heart to heart about what you both want.
Good luck.x
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (25 March 2012):
 There is no destined-for-each-other when you are continents away and no promise about moving back to where she lives, and she has no dreams of moving to where you live. Some people are romantic, they like to wear their hearts on their sleeves, meaning they love and they do not let distance hinder them. Some people are more practical. They look at circumstances and decide who they want to love. She didn't play you here. It is all one sided. Yes you talked about private things but you two never agreed that you were dating, even if long distance. It could be that when people are chatting they are looking for topics to talk about, not necessarily she is looking for a potential mate. Maybe she backed off because she sensed that you are putting too much into it but she does not know how to break it off? She never knew you were in love with her for 6 years.
I think you should let her go. A person you can actually see and touch is much better than an image, an illusion.
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