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*motherslove's profile: Hello. I've been around the block a few times & am more than happy to share my hard-won experience & wisdom with others, to help them find their place in this world. It took ME a while! If I can speed up the process for somebody else, so much the better. I'm in a very unusual relationship that I will be more than happy to unpack as time goes on (not 100% sure what's appropriate here yet!). Suffice it to say I am a mature woman that fell deeply, helplessly, head over heels in love with just a lovely, a...BEAUTIFUL...younger man, all while being married to a fellow a year older than me & whom I ALSO love very much! Confused yet lol?! It's actually not that confusing in reality as we all now have embraced our proper roles in the life that was literally created for us & so have attained maximum happiness in that life. Such is the wisdom I referenced above. We are very VERY blessed, & boy do we KNOW IT! We live on the Eastern Seaboard (aka the Atlantic coast) of the beautiful United States of America, but we have traveled (& travel) the rest of the country & the globe, & we very much enjoy doing that. What makes me tick? Hmmm...well...I guess I would characterize myself (& I hope it's OK to do so!) as a ballsy & upfront mature woman that knows what she likes, what she wants, & doesn't hesitate to tell it like it is or as she sees it. Put another way, I have my own mind about things & I don't have time for bullshit. There is a phrase I use very often, you might even call it a motto: Brutal Truth. I tell it. Truth is sometimes, indeed many times, painful. That's just how it is. I'd rather have it than not have it. That way everybody knows the score. Regardless of the hurt. That's it. If you're looking for handholding or sugarcoating I'm probably NOT the "Agony Aunt" for you! If you want a cold dose of reality (at least, the reality I've experienced, which is all I can really speak to with any authority), then welcome aboard, you've come to the right place! And I came to this realization about truth over many years of, first, an incredible amount of self-deception & self-denial, & then, once I struck up that relationship I mentioned with the really hot (& hung) younger fella behind my husband's back (the other man I loved & do love that I also mentioned), I became a habitual, inveterate, & very creative cheater & unfaithful wife. And being deceptive with my husband like that? Not gonna lie: it was a LLLLLOTTA fun! Brutal truth, it was. However that makes me look, whore, tramp, slut, bad wife, wicked woman, whatever, sticks 'n stones, don't care what anybody thinks. I loved every second of it. It's how I felt, that's it, the truth. But... After awhile (& I mean a good LONG while, over 15 years straight), the time had come for my hottie & I to move into a new phase of our life & our relationship, & let the marital chips fall where they may. We reached that decision calmly & deliberately & fully knowingly. Long story short as it turned out, though we fully expected our brutal truth to bring a shattering end to my marriage, in fact it did not! Oh sure, my husband was shocked as all getout when we revealed ourselves to him...literally lol...but he was back in 3 days, having thought deeply about the whole thing & what had been going on & why & what his role may have been in all that, & he asked to be reinstated. My hottie & I were MORE than happy to oblige! Sure, some changes were in the offing for my husband, I mean...how could they NOT be, right?, given what he'd just learned & for how long it had been going on right under his nose, but...he was willing to try to accept & embrace those changes. And he has! In fact, it didn't take him very long at all & now he is just the very PICTURE of happiness & security & awareness & all that good stuff. He's marvelous, & I love him so much for it! And guess what? All that open honesty & frank feelings & brutal truth? Yeah, THAT happens to be RRRRREALLY fun too! So I guess that's it then, for now. Probably too much already lol! Though there is much more that could be said. It is this unusual & very varied experience that I feel qualifies me to give answers here (though surely they will not be to everyone's, or perhaps even most folks, liking). And as a final note, I often fall into using the "we" pronoun even though this is my account. Please forgive me. It's just an old, old habit having been in a relationship with either 1 or both of the beloved men in my life for better than 4 decades now. PS. Our avatar is us, walking into my hottie's home (I own a real estate business & I rent the house to him).

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