| BillTarr, posted
over a year ago
Here's little article I found for you...
"You’ve undoubtedly tried it yourself ... to keep from ejaculating, you wore three condoms, smeared yourself with anesthetizing cream or devoted your thoughts to figuring out the square root of 17. But because all these techniques are just attempts to reduce your sexual awareness, they’re precisely the opposite of what you need to be doing. Instead, the first step toward learning ejaculatory control is to become more aware of your own arousal patterns, according to Barbara Keesling, Ph.D., a California sex therapist and author of How to Make Love All Night.
"Arousal is much more than a ‘yes’ or ‘no’ experience—there are many levels of arousal, each having its own distinct sensations and types of intensity,” she explains. To increase your awareness of these different sensations, rate them on a scale of one to ten, she suggests. Something like this:
"1. No arousal. You’re doing your taxes.
2-3. Slightly aroused. Fleeting memories of an old girlfriend.
4. Steady arousal. You’re turned on, but you could easily turn it off.
5-6. Solid arousal. You could turn it off, but it’s beginning to feel so good who’d want to?
7-8. Peaking arousal. Your heart’s pounding, face is flushed, you’re breathing heavy. This is great!
9. Peak arousal. You’re at the brink of orgasm.
10. Orgasm.
"The next step is to practice bringing yourself to various levels of arousal, then backing off before ejaculation. Start by masturbating with a dry hand, working yourself up to about a five, then backing off to a two, then up to a six. Try last 15 minutes without ejaculating. While doing these exercises take deep, easy, relaxed breaths, breathing from your belly. This helps forestall ejaculation.
"It sounds simple, and it is. But this technique, known as stop-start method, is the basis of nearly all professional treatment from rapid ejaculation. (If you prefer, you can try the squeeze method instead of merely stopping just before ejaculation, you can firmly squeeze the tip of your penis just behind the head with thumb and forefingers. Hold the squeeze for ten seconds, or until the urge to ejaculate passes.)
"When you need only one or two stops in order to last the whole 15 minutes, move on to the next stage – doing it with a lubricated hand. Practice this until you can last 15 minutes with one or two stops. Then move to the next stage: Masturbating with a dry hand for 15 minutes without ejaculating and without stopping. Then do this with lubrication. Eventually, you’ll be able to shift your newly learned control to intercourse, which is generally the biggest challenge of all."
Hope that helps...
Posted on 5 September 2008 @ 9:2 (London time) - permalink
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lotsofgiggles123, posted
over a year ago