lemontree, posted
over a year ago
I joined because at the time, I had a problem that was upsetting me - which I couldn't discuss with friends (because I am married). Basically I had developed a silly crush on my then gym instructor (I suppose because he was rather handsome, and because he had been nice, and a little flirty with me). Although I hadn't made any moves in that direction, he obviously picked up on the fact that I liked him, and started taking the p***, and making brush-off remarks. His colleagues also started making nudge-nudge comments. I was thoroughly embarrassed and humiliated, but couldn't leave because my son was also a member, and I was afraid he would ask questions. Eventually, I wrote to the gym instructor, and told him that he had got the wrong idea - that I was just being friendly etc. This was a mad, and bad idea. He then avoided me like the plague, and looked at me like thunder, whenever he saw me. When I arrived at the gym, he would disappear. On one occasion, as I was leaving he pointedly said to the Receptionist `right I can go back now'. In the end, the gym instructors disappearing act, had unfortunate consequences, because my son had an accident in the gym. I complained to the Manager, and the gym instructor admitted that he had disappeared because he was giving me a wide-berth. But he denied making brush-off remarks, and being rude to me. However this gave me a reason for us to leave.
I was very grateful for the advice, and support I received during a horrible time (particularly from Oblivion). Also, the advice I received helped me to understand the real issue's that I have to deal with (notably my marriage, and lack of self-esteem). However, I do worry now, that I may have misunderstood his remarks, and made a mountain out of a molehill, because I was feeling so inadequate, and expecting rejection (if that makes sense). Also,despite what's happened, I still think about him, and miss him.
Posted on 5 November 2007 @ 12:4 (London time) - permalink
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