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over a year ago
Hey everyone...
It's well into the afternoon and I just woke up. Neck is sore and my shoulders need a good stretching. Ah, tonight's hot pot murder mystery party should be rather interesting... [sigh] Ah well...
ANYWAY, I would just like to vent a little bit about the mention of best friends that I've noticed throughout DearCupid. Like in the recent bouts of new threads, I've noticed that quite a few teenagers are having a heck of a time trying t work out their relationships with their boyfriends and/or girlfriends and one of the biggest obstacles is that their best friends are also in the picture.
[ponders briefly]
I say, if the best you can do as an individual to have a friend like that who sleeps around with your partner (or lack thereof) or plays mind games with you, or does things that compromise the support and integrity between you and him/her, then surely doesn't that mean that you should detach yourself from friends like that, let alone girlfriends or boyfriends like that?
You should definitely find and accept a wider range of friends. Rather than make one friend and stick with him or her, you should definitely meet more people, and see how compatible you are with them on a deeper level. Rather than have A BEST friend, you should try to meet and accept a few friends that might become close to you one day. Then continue to build on those relationships.
FROM THE LOOKS of it here on DC, there is a HUGE difference between BEST FRIEND and GOOD FRIEND. Best friends are a dime a million. Good friends are like the rare early-1900's silver nickel. Just totally uncomparable.
However, something just came to mind. I mean how would you as a person be morally inclined to do otherwise? I see so many threads that say "I like this guy, but my best friend likes him too, so should I tell him I like him?"
I know that principles differ from person to person, but if it was me and one of my close friends who fell for the same girl, I would back-off. I wouldn't even bring it up. In fact it would only be after their relationship is well-established, that I will bring it up with my friend and tell him that I was once attracted to her, but I am extremely happy that he got her and hope they have the best.
In another example is falling for your best friends' girl or guy - I mean, come on! If my close male friend has a girlfriend, she automatically becomes my sister, as he is my brother. Whatever feelings I may develop that may be out of my control, stays in control. Understand? I'm not going to let my emotions affect their relationship! That is just not a part of the equation. It's non-existing!
A close friend should be a brother or a sister to you. Someone close, sentimentally meaningful. Someone who holds the upper ground while you make sure they make their escape by fending off the enemy. Someone whom you look up to, or at the least hold a similar amount of respect and/or admiration for. Someone who has an affinity with you, who sees you as your brother or sister in arms. Someone whom is a part of your family. Someone whom you would go to hell fighting side by side, while drinking large quantities of beer and laugh every time a demon falls to your feet!
[sigh]
I'm done my rant, and I know it looked abruptly cut off but my stomach is bellowing with hunger and it's freezing in here.
Good day.
-li
Posted on 13 January 2007 @ 23:58 (London time) - permalink
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