When an agony aunt needs advice pt 2..

Heya People,

Posted on 22 April 2006 @ 3:7 (London time) - permalink
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Hey Dazzer

Posted on 22 April 2006 @ 12:54 (London time) - permalink
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Found you question!

Posted on 22 April 2006 @ 13:43 (London time) - permalink
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Ty for the hug Prunella :), my question is 'How do I stop our insecurities wrecking our relationship' btw for others.

Posted on 22 April 2006 @ 14:7 (London time) - permalink
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Hey dazzerg

Posted on 22 April 2006 @ 14:53 (London time) - permalink
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Thank you Jacqueline,yes you have, you all have so far, thnak you :)

Posted on 22 April 2006 @ 16:45 (London time) - permalink
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Hiya dazz

Posted on 22 April 2006 @ 16:55 (London time) - permalink
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Hi there Dazz, I too, added my 2 cents. It's not meant to be harsh, just straight forward. Just some thoughts on 'insecurities and what it does to people'. Hope it helps. Take care and best wishes.

Posted on 22 April 2006 @ 18:40 (London time) - permalink
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Ty you guys, thank you so much. We talked on the phone and she seems to want to talk again now lol. Am feeling alot better now thanks to you guys, will keep trying and hopefully make it. Thanks for the hugs and kisses willywombat xxxx

Posted on 22 April 2006 @ 21:34 (London time) - permalink
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4t ud guys like to know its all over. Last nite she sent me a txt intended for her first ex tellin him to stop messin abt and i rung her to tell her and made a quip about her having to learn im not him. She flew off the handle and slammed down the phone and i laid into her basically.

Posted on 26 April 2006 @ 12:2 (London time) - permalink
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Maybe she has both of you listed under 'hot stuff' or something!

Posted on 26 April 2006 @ 12:58 (London time) - permalink
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I feel played. She just rang me out of the blue and she said she was getting payed so i asked her if she was out at the weekend and she said 'maybe,probably not', she also made it clear in her eyes we are not together. Whether shes conscious of it or not shes playin me.

Posted on 26 April 2006 @ 13:41 (London time) - permalink
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the text to her first ex said 'sure I will meet u ***, do you want to go out at the weekend??'

Posted on 26 April 2006 @ 13:41 (London time) - permalink
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sounds like she might be doing this on purpose, how often do you actually put someone's name like that in a text?

Posted on 26 April 2006 @ 13:49 (London time) - permalink
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Thats what I feel, and now shes ringing me trying to ingraiate herself making conversation, ironically 'mistaken' txting is something she accused her second ex of to me.

Posted on 26 April 2006 @ 14:9 (London time) - permalink
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Well on the plus side this means she probably isnt actually txting her ex

Posted on 26 April 2006 @ 15:24 (London time) - permalink
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Well one would feel that if she wasnt interested she would leave it at that and ot ring me - when we rung off this morning she said 'have a good week' as if we wouldnt be talking for a while and then she rings me out of the blue with no propmting. I was pretty hurtful to her last nite, I told her I was down on Friday and that my friends didnt much care for her right now and that she really is pushing me away. She obviously doesnt consider herself as attached so I dont see why i should. I also danger that shes in serious danger of only ever being with users because she pushes people who care abt her away.

Posted on 26 April 2006 @ 15:38 (London time) - permalink
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I know I shouldnt have got angry but I am pretty tierd of being her emotional punch bag sometimes. We were kinda saying we would leave it this morning but then she rang me for no reason a few hours later....

Posted on 26 April 2006 @ 15:40 (London time) - permalink
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call her bluff you tell her not to ring you again you have had enough no more mind games c'mon this is going no-where and you want to beat yourself up for getting angry anyone would be angry but you need to see light at the end of the tunnel you have good friends with your best interest at heart listen to them please take care

Posted on 27 April 2006 @ 22:13 (London time) - permalink
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As i am the girl that is being talked about here i feel that i need too pu some sort of input in here!!! I am the female that dazzer is talking about here and yes there are 2 sides too every story. Yes i have my insecurities but don't we all??? I care for darrell very much and this i tell him but i am at a stage at the moment in mylife where i can't give him everything he needs i have also explained this too him but when i try too explain this too him he gets very heavy and i feel like he backs me in to a corner and i feel trapped and unable too breath!! I tend too agree with some of the posts on here that it doesnt feel like a real relationship as we have not met yet but darrell does not see it in this way. I know i have hurt him and i have apologised and i will do now infront of these people im so sorry for hurting you darrell it was never intentional!!! But i did explain too you when we 1st started talking that i have alot of backage and that all i could offer you was friendship but that never seemed enough for you!!! i Dont really care what people think of me the only oppinions that matter too me is those who i care for and i do care for you!!! Yes i have a bad past history with exe's and i appreciate that everyone does but i'm trying to resolve my own issues without yours being added too!! You a real sweet guy and a genuwine lovely person but you too tend too rush in and jump in at the deep end where as i prefer too go with the flow and see what happens afterall you can't plan these things what will be will be!!! You have always know about ian and i have never hid anything from you i have always been truthfull but maybe the truth hurts cus it's not what you want too hear!! Yes i have male friends and yes they have stopped the night too which i told you about and you even spoke too me when he was there if i had something too hide i wouldnt bother telling you.And just because they are male friends it doesn't mean im going too drop my knickers for them does it? thats where a big thing called trust comes into play and without it you have nothing!! I appreciate that people were trying to advise you because you were hurting but truly there is 2sides too every story!!! Anyway i hope you are all well including you darrell take care all luv amz xxxxx

Posted on 11 May 2006 @ 20:52 (London time) - permalink
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I know you never hurt me intentionally although it has felt that way at times. And I know I can be oppressive and overbearing and stuff and its something I need to work on. This week I feel I have tried to be measured in responding to you although you have come onto me. I have tried to tell myself hold your horses this isnt real yet and I think it worked. I have diliberately not invested too much in us because of this problem and because to be honest I was scared it wouldnt last.

Posted on 11 May 2006 @ 21:48 (London time) - permalink
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Dear God !!!

Posted on 11 May 2006 @ 22:7 (London time) - permalink
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Well this is an emotional relationship rather than a physical one. If this works out, they will eventually meet in person.

Posted on 11 May 2006 @ 22:38 (London time) - permalink
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