Spark

bobojack, posted over a year ago

Hi,

My girlfriend of 2 years recently came up to see me and decided to split with me only to come back 3 days later to say that she still loves me etc. We then decided to go on a break and after a month we met up deciding (eventually) to gove it another go after the relationship had become boring, repetitive etc. We both love each other and i think we both want this to work. She says however that there is no passion or spark left inside her yet she still is willing to give this a go. How can i get that spark back asap? And also which way should i play it. Maybe its just a phase?

Cheers

Posted on 15 November 2007 @ 14:35 (London time) - permalink
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steph2273, posted over a year ago

I totally understand where ur coming from. I am in that situation with my wife of two yrs. I have to admit we as men don't listen to our women (I mean really listen) When I women loves a man they give everything and they really want you to pay attention and listen to what they say. Somewhere throughout ur relationship she had told / warned you about what was wrong. Work on the things that were an issue for her. that is how women begin to determine if you are right for them. Sometimes it may not workout becuase she may not know what she wants, however in the long run that approach will help u out in ur future relationships.

Posted on 30 January 2008 @ 13:8 (London time) - permalink
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spirited, posted over a year ago

I am going through that right now with my boyfriend of almost 2 years. I do give him everything. A hot meal every night, do things he enjoys, show him I am more attracted to him than ever, and he just doesn't have it there for me anymore. I do voice my opinions and my feelings about what is going on with us and with not changes happening. I am also considering leaving him. I am madly in love with him. I don't want to be with anyone else, but I can't stand being loved less than what I deserve. I don't know what she might have been trying to get across to you before your break but I know I've tried everything from talking to writing, taping myself, not saying anything at all... it gets to a point that we women will just give up. I hope you and your loved one can work it out. All I can say from my experience is to be as open as possible. Something you might believe to be completely irrelevant to tell her, might be what she deems important in your life. As in, minor things at work, something that happened with a sibling of theirs, etc. Sometimes we just feel so disconnected that we don't even know who we are with anymore.

And even if you think they already know, tell them how much you love them, why, and why you don't want to live without them. Try to keep fresh in your memory how it felt when you first kissed or when you first started dating. That will feel the feelings fresh like they were in the beginning.

What I would do to have that.

Good luck to both of you.

Posted on 3 February 2008 @ 8:42 (London time) - permalink
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