taking a break?

I have been dating this girl for a couple of months now. We both are really into each other, and everything has been going great. We both have our own kids, so our time is limited with each other. We see each other about once or twice a week, and talk on the phone everyday. Both of us don't have the kids on thursdays, and I go to her place and stay the night, since she cant stay at my house(allergies). Last Thursday, I went to her house, as usual, and one of her friends called and needed some help. So I went back home, and she said I'll call you when I'm done helping her. No problem, right? Well, she didn't call, so I thought they just ran late, and called her the next morning. She didnt answer/call back...same in the afternoon, and that night. Same with Saturday, also. I get an e-mail from her, and she said she was sorry for being MIA, and she needed time to think about things (she didnt say what she needed to think about). She said that she needs to take a "breather" from me for a "minute", because I am always on her mind, and she can't stop thinking about me, when we can see each other/talk to each other. And that she needs to get back to how things were before I was around for a "minute". But she also said that she is still here, and that she still likes me, and likes spending time with me. I don't know about you, but I am getting 2 messages here. Should I be worried, or am I reading too much into this? I have never come across someone wanting to take a break in a relationship, so I don't know how to take this. Thanks.

Posted on 5 June 2007 @ 6:49 (London time) - permalink
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This will suck for me to say, but you are just boyfriend and girlfriend so what's the problem? You both live separately of one another, you see each other twice a week...on these days it's the intimacy but no real commmitment or intimacy is going on here in that it hasn't been taken to the next level.

Posted on 5 June 2007 @ 7:57 (London time) - permalink
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So should give her space and wait for her to contact me, or should I take the initiative and get ahold her? Thursday will be a week.

Posted on 6 June 2007 @ 16:24 (London time) - permalink
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I say doing something thoughtful with a note saying hope your friend is doing well and she is fortunate to have you as a friend in her time of need.

Posted on 6 June 2007 @ 16:49 (London time) - permalink
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Well, I gave her a short message Thursday. Short, simple. And she called today. Talked for about 30 min. Asked how each other were, whats new, how her classes were, etc. She said she'd call tonight if she can take a break from homework, or tomorrow. Should I "drop" this, or talk to her about it and try and set those boundries?

Posted on 9 June 2007 @ 1:39 (London time) - permalink
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No, you shouldn't be worried, you should be a man. Her needing space is her way of telling you that she's not exclusive with you without being straight up with you. She could have met another guy that's exciting and fun and she's keeping you on the hook.... It doesn't really matter though does it? If your not exclusive then go out and meet other women. There's about 150 million of them in the US alone. You may be wanting to be in a relationship so badly that you are giving off the dreaded "I'm needy" signs. Women want a strong man, not a needy man. Let her go. If she wants you, she'll call you back. The next question is, what will you do? richard@whatdoesshewant.co.uk

Posted on 14 July 2007 @ 5:42 (London time) - permalink
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