help me please

allscrewedup, posted over a year ago

okay this is long and drawn out so please be patient with me.

Here we go. I was with a man for 12 years and married for 8 during that time I cheated on him with nurmerous guys and had a 2 year and 5 year realtionship with two of them. Now I am seperated from this guy and with a much better one but i lied to keep in contact with the 2 long term people. Telling him I ha never had sex with either of them. There was nothing sexual going on with us (I moved to a different state) but I did talk on the phone to them (50 phone calls in 6 months) I was not in love with either of these guys but I am in love with my current man. He has problems with my past sexual history.(I was a slut) and is hurt and upset that I couldn't let go of the other two guys during our relationship. Since I lied (and he knew I was lying) He made me tell him everything in my whole sexual history including some details and my dumbass added more. I'm not proud of what I did but he seems to thing I am.I was also a topless dancer during this time. (that's where I met the two long term guys and a few others) I know I've screwed up and have been doing what I can to try to make amends but I always seem to find a trigger to send him reeling back and wanting me to leave. I know he loves me (although yesterday he told me he doesn't anymore) and I think we can make this work. He wants to understand why I did this and I don't have the answers for that I tried to explain that it was a cycle and I was looking for something that I never found. Now he thinks he is just another part of that cycle, and I know he is not. I had a child and he has changed everything in my world. Mind you that his and my realtionship started while I was still with my husband but I left him and wanted to be with this guy. I know I would never cheat on him. He gives me everything I need in everyway. I know this is hard for him and I can't tell him anything that will make him see things any different but I know I love him and want to fix what I have done to him and I think it is possible for us to have a good relationship together. Please tell me what you think

Posted on 15 September 2006 @ 15:37 (London time) - permalink
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amerthyst0202, posted over a year ago

you really messed up! and if he doesnt love you and your child why is he still here,? give him time, get rid of your old contacts if love him you will. carnt you understand why this guy carnt trust you you left your husband to be with him but also kept in contact with other men. he needs time and your love dont cheat again or you will lose him

Posted on 3 October 2006 @ 16:29 (London time) - permalink
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