Wifes Friend

jasin, posted over a year ago

A friend of mine was treating his wife terrible and my wife and I attempted to give her advice and him advice on maybe treating her nicer. About 3 weeks later after we found out all of this was happening my wife started becoming very suspicious of me because her friend was having a hard time in her relationship. She began to accuse me of cheating on her and watching me closely and the only reason I can think of is that she was thinking of scenarios that her friend would do to get out of her marriage. She picked at me and asked where I was, dug in my computer, phone, everything for almost 2 months. She just kept pushing me away even though I did not do anything. After this persisted for a long time I finally saw how paranoid she was and I am getting tired of it and though I have never considered cheating before, ironically now that I am constantly accused I think maybe I should just do it and get it over with. And now the opportunity has presented itself. Over the past 2 months my wifes friend has been calling and texting me and we have been talking and talking and we have developed a relationship and she has kissed me a couple of times and invited me places and she has begun to tell me that she loves me and I am beginning to feel the same for her. And over all both of our spouses seem to have been doing the same things to us. Always accusing us and being just mean in general in the things they say. I am not sure what to do I have 2 kids with my wife but at the rate we are going she is going to drive me crazy. I try to explain my problems with her attitude. Give me an idea of what I should do, I am considering moving to puerto rico and taking her with me as this would be far enough away that her family and mine would not flip out on us. Feed back apprecieated.

Posted on 20 May 2006 @ 18:25 (London time) - permalink
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, posted over a year ago

Why don't you post this on the main site. You will likely get a a much better response and a very good diverse range of answers. Check it out.

Posted on 20 May 2006 @ 23:20 (London time) - permalink
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eddie, posted over a year ago

I used to live in Puerto RIco. My wife is from there. By the way, that won't solve anything. Whatever you do, don't go and "just do it and get it over with" The word JUST is a strange one. That seems to be a word used to minimize or rationalize something. It's not.

Well, you have done something wrong actually. You cheated on your wife. You're kissing and emotionally attaching yourself to another woman. If your wife finds out, she will think you've been cheating for years. She had an insecure moment and now you've gone and given her reason to justify her "insecure moment". Now she will think she was correct all along. Also, what type of friend is this other woman? Not a very good one.

Go to a therapist with your wife and work out your problems. It can be done. By the way, infedelity in Puerto Rico is the norm, or at least tolerated much more than other places. It is almost expected to some extent. The attitiude that men will be men is quite prevalent. I speak from first hand knowledge. It is quite common in latin countries for the men to have a lady on the side. In Puerto Rico she is referred to as a "chilla". If you're Puerto Rican, you will know this.

Posted on 21 May 2006 @ 15:27 (London time) - permalink
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