advice anyone please

muffincake, posted over a year ago

Would like to post the question...can he be over me when he is acting like this?

My bf dumped me out of the blue a month ago, soon after he went on holiday with a few of his friends and will be back in a week. He broke up with me and would not talk to me for a long time afterwards. consisting of turning off his fone and cancelling my calls etc. Few days afterwards he did pick up and we spoke on friend terms.. and it was ok- just general chat really. He then got all weird again and whenever i called tried to shun me and wud make the conversation as quick as possible (i'm talking like 3 mins!). before this i also asked him once he got back from his holiday if he would come to my house and talk things over or at least say a last goodbye- but he said he didn't want to and wasn't going to. We have been together for 4 years and our relationship was not a bad relationship at all.

Recently i have been doing the old NC and have done for about a week, but as it was easter i gave him quick call to say happy easter and once again the convo was only around 3 mins long! He has blocked me on yahoo messenger and does not want to speak to me at all. How can he be over me after this long and treats me the way he does? surely when you are completely over someone speaking to them doesn't matter as you have no feelings for them? I no he may want to be over me but is he really over me? can you be so quickly after 4 years? I thought he would be sorry he was hurting me, even if he doesn want me as a gf, and be nice about the break up but he is just being so rude to someone that has been there for him for 4 years. Is it worth me waiting until he gets home? Is he over me?

Posted on 17 April 2006 @ 15:6 (London time) - permalink
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Sweetie Pie, posted over a year ago

I feel so so sorry for you muffincake!

I dont know what has come over your now ex,but your definetly not helping the situation at all.You should give him his space,but if your really hurt over this and majorly confused try leaving him a voicemail when he is avoiding one of your calls.Tell him how hurt you are and confused by what he is doing to you or even better talk to one of his close friends and ask them if they know anything and if they could help you out by talking to him.If that doesnt work write him a note but if he STILL is avoiding you maybe you should leave it at that.You tried hard enough but he just wont listen.And even though hes avoiding you hes trying to make you think hes not hurt at all by the breakup.I know this will be hard for you but ignore this jerk!He'll realize soon hes made a MAJOR mistake.

Move on with your life!Hes just not worth it!

Hope things go well...SWEETIE PIE

Posted on 17 April 2006 @ 20:11 (London time) - permalink
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chachacha, posted over a year ago

Are you really 12, giving answers like that?

Posted on 18 April 2006 @ 1:15 (London time) - permalink
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, posted over a year ago

I think any age is capable of giving constructive advice. Really depends on the mental capabilities of a person.

Posted on 18 April 2006 @ 1:19 (London time) - permalink
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bridget, posted over a year ago

I totally agree with you Martini it does depend on the individuals state of mind and sometimes the experinces of people aswell...

Jacqueline

Posted on 18 April 2006 @ 13:9 (London time) - permalink
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