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I want to get back with my boyfriend

guypaul, posted over a year ago

Ok... I'm gay and only 18. But i want to get back with my boyfriend. We went out for just over 4 months, i know it isn't a long time, and a lot of you will probably dismiss it, but in that 4 months we made each other very happy, and it is fair to say that he changed my life. I love him, but i'm not in love with him, i just think he has helped me so much with coming out to everyone and teaching me to be myself and believe i can do anything if i put my mind to it. As with any relationship we had ups and downs but the ups were amazing times! He recently broke up with me because al off a sudden he realised he didnt want a relationship. I just don't understand the change and he has no explanation for it. He still loves me and fancies me, but why not want to be more than friends? He'd rather be single. He's helped me so much i'm not ready to give up on us. I keep ringing him but he doesn't answer because he always leaves his phone upstairs while hes at home, but will always answer to me say after midnight when hes gone to bed. He wants me to call him everynight and stay good friends, but i want more. Any advise, anybody? I thaught about not rigning, or seing him at all for a few days to show him what hes missing, but im worried if i do that, his love for me will only be friends by then. Anybody help at all?

Posted on 15 April 2006 @ 20:13 (London time) - permalink
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DearCupidDearCupid, posted over a year ago

You're best posting this on the main site www.dearcupid.org/ask

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Posted on 16 April 2006 @ 4:35 (London time) - permalink
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chachacha, posted over a year ago

It is not clear why you want to get back with your boyfriend:

(i) you are not in love with him - after only 4 months, you should be in love with him if it were to work, and

(ii) you want to go out with him because he has helped you and taught you - a relationship has to be balanced, not a teacher pupil relationship.

He is being v strong to split up with you if he loves and fancies you - he can probably see that you see him as a teacher not as a boyfriend.

Respect his strength, stop calling him, and spend some time having a relationship with the new out-you, until you are ready to give someone as much in a relationship as they will give to you.

Posted on 16 April 2006 @ 22:9 (London time) - permalink
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