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Archived questions from: January, 2019 (see latest questions)

Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

My b/f of 20 years threw me out in the middle of the night with nowhere to go and now wants me back

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 2140 days ago

31 January 2019 (F)

age 41-50 - my boyfriend of twenty years threw me out the house in the night in the city hundreds of miles from my family. he wouldn't let me sleep and told me to pack my bags, leave the keys or he would torture me until I left. I was very frightened as he had hit me and kicked me a few ... (189 words)

Were my in-laws out of line or did my brother overreact to an innocent question?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 2141 days ago

31 January 2019 (M)

age 36-40 - My in-laws have a problem with boundaries and they are kind of are drama queens. My younger brother on the other hand is more of a private person. So my wife and I had a six month old baby. On Christmas Day, we all had our families over (my wife's family and my family). ... (171 words)

How to deal with social anxiety and awkwardness?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2152 days ago

30 January 2019 (M)

age 51-59 - I am an introvert and struggle in social settings. I feel like there is really no good reason for this - I am confident, reasonably attractive, successful, etc. (the point being that I have nothing to feel insecure about). I do great in one-on-one settings with anybody. But ... (181 words)

I’m feeling guilty about enjoying my casual relationship

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2151 days ago

30 January 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - I’ve been occasionally seeing a friend of a friend. We’ve gone on a few dates, but then I said I wasn’t looking for a relationship. I didn’t want to scare him off/wasn’t sure what I wanted. He’s been into me and contacting me for about 6 months now. We have been intima... (268 words)

Did I just ruin the best thing that's ever happened to me with one bad decision?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 2147 days ago

29 January 2019 (?) age 36-40 - I feel like a complete fool. Tonight I did something stupid and opened a message on my fiance's phone. I didn't even read the message bit then lied to him when he asked me if I had read his messages. I did come clean and it has really upset him. He said things like you need ... (112 words)

Do I have cold feet or am I overthinking? I feel marriage is a huge responsibility that I want but I'm not ready for

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2153 days ago

29 January 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - My fiance and I have been together for two and a half years, and engaged just two months. We've always had a great relationship. I was so touched when he said yes and soaked up all the engagement bliss during the first month. During the second month, I suddenly feel...... (318 words)

How much do guys tell their friends about their dating life?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2153 days ago

29 January 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm wondering how much guys discuss their love life with their guy friends. I tell my girlfriends everything, who I'm going out with, whether we hooked up etc. I'm on a dating site and I was seeing this guy who I liked for about a month. We only made out and never had sex an... (146 words)

My girlfriend wants money and has found another love!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2151 days ago

29 January 2019 (M)

age 26-29 - Hello I am suffering in the depression my gf says that she no more relationship with me , because she found new guy but I rely want her and love so much , she want money but I cant give money ,what can I do , I think cant live without hersef . please help me. ... (56 words)

He’s obsessed with his appearance and I’m becoming I attracted to him!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2151 days ago

29 January 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi all, so I’ve got an interesting issue that I’d love some insight on - so I’ve known my partner 11 years and have been together 3 years. He’s over 6ft tall, blue eyes and the buffest guy you’ll ever see yet he remains very modest (ie doesn’t take shirtless instagram selfies ... (205 words)

Is my boyfriend's behaviour normal? He's admitted to going really strange sexual things relating to the girl he liked!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2147 days ago

29 January 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello. I’m starting to become a little bit freaked out by my partner. I just wanted to know how “normal” this was. He’s a normal man, hardworking, provides for the family, kind, caring and loving. He hasnt had many girlfriends in the past due to him always having feelings ... (706 words)

I just found out that he's married and having an affair with me behind his wife's back! I want to run but he makes me happier than I've ever been. What do I do?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 2152 days ago

29 January 2019 (F)

age 41-50 - I have been dating the love of my life for 4 months. I am an extremely introverted person, but felt extremely comfortable with him from day 1. The connection that we share is indescribable. He is the sweetest, most loving man that I have ever met and I cant imagine not ... (219 words)

If he wanted to see me, why doesn't he?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2151 days ago

28 January 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - I met this guy online about a year ago, he lives an hour away from me. He kept messaging me about how beautiful and hot I was and said he wanted something fun and non committal. I said I wasn't looking for that and wished him luck in finding it. A few months later, he reached ... (233 words)

He doesn't have a life beyond me and I don't like the pressure that it puts on me. I want a way out

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2150 days ago

28 January 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey all! This is a hard one for me... I am 26 years old and so is my partner. We have only been together about 3 months now. The relationship moved VERY fast, and we were saying I Love You after a month. I always told myself I wouldn't do that, but I think I got caught up ... (631 words)

My husband with a panty fetish now says he wants panties from other women

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2153 days ago

27 January 2019 (F)

age 36-40 - My husband of 6 years just came to me and said he has had a used panty fetish since before we were ever together (almost 10 years). While I am okay (and even flattered) that he has been using mine for his own pleasure, he has stated that he wants panties from other women as... (76 words)

I'm pretty sure he likes me but how can I be sure?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2150 days ago

27 January 2019 (F)

age 18-21 - There is this guy who I really adore. We are very similar and all my friends think we should be together. I am pretty sure he likes me, but how can I be certain? I don't want to make a fool of myself asking him to be my boyfriend, but I still really want this to happen. If... (87 words)

Do I tell her my feelings and risk ending our friendship?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2154 days ago

27 January 2019 (M)

age 30-35 - Bit of a long question here, but I've got this friend that I met a few years ago and lived with for a year in university. Since then we have basically become best friends and throughout it I've always maintained us just being friends and had been happy with it. But this past ... (170 words)

I'm unhappy with the relationship want to end it but partner acts like nothing is wrong

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2153 days ago

27 January 2019 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi guys. Im in deseperate need of advice because im literally at my wits end. My bf is 8 yrs younger than me. We have a 3 yr old together and i have a tennager daughter from a previous relationship. We had a whirlwind romance and i ended up pregnant very early on in the ... (306 words)

My crush at work knows I like her. She has a boyfriend. What do I do now?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2153 days ago

27 January 2019 (M)

age 36-40 - Hello. I have a coworker I happened to like her. I met her at work and became a friend but I have started having a feeling for her just 2 months now since last December. So I just told her yesterday how I feel and she was surprised but it went well. I told her I had hard time ... (242 words)

New friendship w/ someone I met from a reality show

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2152 days ago

27 January 2019 (F)

age 36-40 - Ok... I'm so confused. I am currently engaged. Not the best relationship by any means, but I am engaged and hoping for it to get better after a big move happens to get away from his insane and cruel family who hurt us pretty bad. Oddly enough, my question is about som... (536 words)

My daughter just found out that I am her biological father not the man she grew up calling dad. Do I contact her?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2150 days ago

27 January 2019 (M)

age - My question is thirty years ago I was very much in love with my youth sweetheart,but she she got married but we never stopped seeing each other, she had to children, we didn't know if her daughter was her husband or mine but we split up for the children sake,it was very hard on ... (134 words)

Why does he act this way?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 2154 days ago

26 January 2019 (F)

age 26-29 - There is a guy who I see around my work sometimes and I am attracted to. I have tried hinting at him that I like him, such as telling him he makes me blush and tease him abit. He has given me high-fives, told me "we need more of you around" but he doesn't tease me back. ... (241 words)

I feel like he likes me but isn’t sure about taking the next step?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 2155 days ago

26 January 2019 (F)

age 26-29 - So I’m in a bizarre situation at the moment. I’m 20 years old but I only just had my first kiss with this guy I really like. We met at a party and started messaging every day. I was going overseas so I invited him to a friends party - he didn’t finish work until 11 but he came ... (340 words)

Does his body language and other actions indicate he’s into me or just being friendly?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2155 days ago

25 January 2019 (F)

age 26-29 - There is a guy in my class this semester in college who decided to sit next to me. The first day of class he introduced himself and we exchanged a few words. I noticed that he was mirroring all the different ways that I sat. Sometimes I would have my chin on my hand and ... (180 words)

I want to give him one more chance and I also don’t!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2156 days ago

25 January 2019 (F)

age 26-29 - My boyfriend and i habe been together for 2.5years.. In our time together ive caught him talking to/ getting pics from at least 10 different women. Hes not a terrible boyfriend.. He can be a jerk and a child at times but i do still love him.. I wanna give him one more... (124 words)

How is affection, spending time with someone or making sure your spouses needs are being taken care of, so many “things” to do for your wife that it would exclude her/me from the right to intimacy?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2156 days ago

24 January 2019 (F)

age 51-59 - I am currently three years into my second marriage. I have had successfull sexual relationships in the past. I have never ever experienced what I am currently experiencing so my question is two fold. 1. Is this a reasonable/healthy relationship? 2. What should I do to help? ... (310 words)

How long do we try for kids before moving on?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2154 days ago

24 January 2019 (M)

age 36-40 - I don't want any judgements, this has not been an easy desicion. There is a chance my long term partner can't have kids. I have always wanted kids. I don't want to do IVF treatment. How long should we try before moving on?... (43 words)

How do I get myself out of a deep depression?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2157 days ago

24 January 2019 (F)

age 51-59 - How do I get myself out of a deep depression . I feel useless . Due to my health I don’t work and I have a hard time getting out some Days when I’m out with my partner I notice people Only seem to address him and never me despite the fact I purposely involve myself innany co... (90 words)

He's coming on too strong, talks about sex a lot, has a child with an ex. Should I ignore these red flags?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 2157 days ago

24 January 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - So about 6 months ago I met this attractive guy.. we met in a cute way as I got him lost accidentally by trying to help with directions, and he later gave me his number and name, which I hadn't asked for. I added him on Facebook and he messaged me, we were really getting on ... (744 words)

Is he playing games with me online?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2158 days ago

24 January 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - I went on a couple dates several months ago with this guy. Our dates were really fun and physical but we never did anything sexual, just kissed. We made plans for our third date but when I checked in to confirm, he never replied, deleted me from the dating site we met on and ... (131 words)

I feel forced to have sex to maintain the relationship

This question has 19 answers - newest was posted 2150 days ago

24 January 2019 (F)

age 41-50 - I'm a bit confused I'm in a relationship and I like the relationship the romance kissing and cuddles but I don't really like having sex I've never really liked it. I feel forced to do it as part of the relationship everyday several times a day and I feel trapped like I'm being ... (70 words)

How do I deal with my parents who seem to prefer my brother!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2156 days ago

24 January 2019 (F)

age 41-50 - I feel my parents don't care about me only my brother who lives with them. They pay for everything for him all his bills yet I don't get any help at all and pay my own bills. I feel not part of the family no matter what I do paid for lots of things for them and help out with ... (108 words)

Why would my boyfriend's behavior suddenly change? How do I approach him about this?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2158 days ago

23 January 2019 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi hope someone can help I’ve been with my fiancé for 7 years now we have had a lot of trust issues due to him sexting his ex girlfriend I ended it but we talked and I gave him another chance that was 5 years ago just recently whenever he has text me he has been putting two x,s ... (139 words)

How can I show him without lecturing, messaging too much or irritating him that it would be great if we were exclusive?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2150 days ago

23 January 2019 (F)

age 41-50 - Sorry but this is long , Me and this guy met on a dating site 3 month ago. We both deleted our profiles but are not exclusive. I told him i want a future with him and he knows how i feel about him. His words were lets just go with the flow. im thinking he wants me as a possible ... (331 words)

I led him into an FWB situation but I'm starting to like this guy and want more

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2156 days ago

23 January 2019 (F)

age 41-50 - My company decided to hire back a former employee for a small gig once a week. I had known the guy previously, but he was really more of an acquanintance. We would talk a bit at work and I soon realized I thought he was very cute. I am a big time flirt, so it was easy for me ... (440 words)

My boyfriend doesn't want to go out on the weekends! He just wants to lounge around and have sex

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2156 days ago

23 January 2019 (F)

age 41-50 - My boyfriend doesn't want to go out on weekends and just stay in and lounge around and have sex all weekend. He says he's tired as works all week but I'm getting bored not going out with him and I feel every time I bring up the subject it becomes a argument I just don't know ... (59 words)

My boyfriend won’t call after we have an argument!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2158 days ago

23 January 2019 (F)

age 41-50 - We Dear Cupid: I have been in a relationship for two years. I am 42 and he is 50. He does not like to text nor be on the phone and we do not have hardly any communication during the day and we see mostly during the weekend as he only comes to my house if his projects are near... (361 words)

She forces me to be completely silent when she talks to her parents!

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 2154 days ago

23 January 2019 (M)

age 41-50 - I am 42 years old and my girlfriend (soon to be wife) is 32 years old. I love her, and she loves me too. Our respective family members know of our relationship, and that, we are going to get married soon. We’ve their blessings. Also, we are both financially independent and ... (329 words)

Am I asking too much to have a partner who prefers me or women my age over much younger women?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2159 days ago

23 January 2019 (F)

age 51-59 - I was in a marriage with a man who was pirn addicted for many years . I have now met another man who I thought was wonderful and believed was very attracted to me x I explained to him that my ex was more interested in women in their twenties despite the fact we are in our ... (486 words)

Should I let her go unless she takes the initiative?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 2159 days ago

22 January 2019 (M)

age 51-59 - I have been in a relationship for many years. We do not live together because we both agreed we would wait until each of our children are grown before we combine our households. There have been "ups and downs" over the years, but never anything bad (nobody has ever cheated, ... (421 words)

I need my boyfriend to want me!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2158 days ago

22 January 2019 (F)

age 26-29 - i recently met this guy and i feel good about things. He is well hot and seems v nice. The trouble is he is a bit backwards at coming forward. My last B/f was like a mad stud in and out the bedroomanad we would just do stuff were and when ever. The trouble is this new guy is t... (314 words)

How do I overcome my fear of commitment?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2160 days ago

22 January 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - I have been dating my bf for 6 years. He sleeps over at my apartment every night and has a bunch of stuff here, but we live apart. He has been trying to get me to move in for at least three years now, but it is a mental block for me. Almost everyone in my immediate family and ... (209 words)

He deleted his dating profile. Did he meet someone else?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2138 days ago

22 January 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - Ive been on 4 dates with a guy I met since Oct. I blew him off a few times because I was worried having sex too soon would ruin things but i do really like him. I was tired of all my past relationship mistakes by sleeping too soon and never getting the guy. So this new gu... (380 words)

Why is he so reluctant to move in together?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 2153 days ago

22 January 2019 (F)

age 36-40 - My boyfriend of 18 months is reluctant to move in together. We have discussed it and he has said that he wants to, in the next year. But when I try to talk about it he gets grumpy and seems uninterested and irritated. For example, I had to go home on Sunday to get my stuff ... (415 words)

He just revealed his new relationship! How do I get over feeling that I am not enough?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2161 days ago

21 January 2019 (F)

age 36-40 - I met someone about a year ago, it’s been mainly casual and on and off due to different things, (his and my insecurities, me seeing someone in the time we weren’t in touch) anyway we got back in touch and it was going so well, I even for the first time let my guard down and ... (262 words)

I’m not sure how to interpret ‘hey chick’ in his text!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2159 days ago

21 January 2019 (F)

age 41-50 - If a male acquitance or a friend sent you a text starting 'hey chick' and you had not one like that before from them, is it something as a female you would find endearing, condescending or the sender being flirty with her. Had one recently and didn't quite know how to respond ... (55 words)

Is trust possible? How do I overcome these relationship obstacles?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2159 days ago

21 January 2019 (F)

age 36-40 - I have come here in the past because of my relationship which I have gotten great great advice - I realize that I have been in neglectful - narcissistic relationship which stem from my parents - both are emotionally unavailable and to be honest I don’t trust them It’s been... (268 words)

When one friend seems distant, what should the other friend do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2160 days ago

21 January 2019 (F)

age 36-40 - Is it better to wait or break friendship? Two people who were close now are drifting apart. One is ignoring the other and the other is waiting. One tried talking to see if there are any issues but the other didnt gave clear answer. Other just said "Dont assume things and dont ... (93 words)

I’m sad and lonely and find myself masturbating too much. Any advice?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2159 days ago

21 January 2019 (M)

age 36-40 - ive just turned 30 and I've been sad and alone recently. Every time i asked a girl out either: they're gay, not dating "right now", or see me better as a friend. recently things in my life haven't been going well. personal failures and life have made things feel horrible. ... (110 words)

Do I have to tell him to delete my number from his little black book?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2160 days ago

21 January 2019 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi , I met a guy online just one time . He didn’t mention to meet me again but some times he text me . I am not native English speaker. A guy always texted me out of the blue. I think he wanted to contacted me as backup plan. Whenever I replied his text he disappeared. H... (92 words)

I’m going to see my ex, is this a good idea?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2161 days ago

20 January 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - My ex and I broke up a year ago due to him moving, and me being in uni still for the next year. Fast forward a year later, and we reconnected and are still in love with each other. I got a great job here in my city after I graduate in a few months and don't want to pass that up ... (176 words)