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Archived questions from: April, 2017 (see latest questions)

Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Am I selfish for wanting some intimacy?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2789 days ago

30 April 2017 (M)

age 36-40 - My Fiancee and I have been together for a few years now and at first we had a fantastic sex life but now we are down to having sex maybe once every couple of months if that. And even then she doesn't seem to be interested so neither of us enjoy it. It seems like a chore to her, ... (328 words)

How do I leave this abusive relationship? He always finds me when I do leave.

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 2703 days ago

30 April 2017 (F)

age 30-35 - How do I even begin to leave an abusive realationship?? My partner has became very abusive in the last 9 months ( I know what your going to think .. why am I still with him after that amount of time) the answer is I'm sacred!!) what can I do?! Every time I've ever tried... (246 words)

Am I being too demanding? His excuse is, ''yes, but just not yet.''

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 2789 days ago

30 April 2017 (F)

age - My boyfriend and I have been dating for several years. We do not live together. He wants me to move in with him, but I won't, because his ex-wife still has a key, and he refuses to change the locks. I don't feel safe leaving my things in his house if she still has access. He ... (299 words)

Does this man care?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2789 days ago

30 April 2017 (F)

age 36-40 - I recently returned back from Australia to Ireland to look after a sick relative. My WHV was almost up and I have plans to go back in the near future to some touring that I didn't get to do this time round. 3 months before returning I started a "no strings attached" thing with ... (347 words)

Is this something to stick with?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2789 days ago

30 April 2017 (F)

age 36-40 - Now just so you know my partner does not want to leave me ....however should I leave him??? I have been through a lot in life I grew up with a compulsive liar for a mother (not spoke to parents for 2yrs)..I have also lost a child when he was 11yrs old my youngest son who is now ... (167 words)

Advice on how women feel about orgasms please?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 2776 days ago

30 April 2017 (M)

age 36-40 - My question is for the ladies out there - do you need an orgasm to enjoy sex? Most women I've ever been with have said they don't so I always took that to be true, but the one I'm with now says she does want and expect an O every time... Now I feel like I'm under so much pr... (199 words)

What will restore my faith in love?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2790 days ago

30 April 2017 (F)

age 26-29 - Dear Aunts, I got out of a relationship with my ex narcissist. I didnt know he was a narcissist until we broke up and he called me all kinds of names "fat, stupid, not sexy or attractive enough, sperm dish, boring etc" you name it. He humiliated me after our break up because ... (368 words)

Why won't he apologise?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2789 days ago

30 April 2017 (F)

age 30-35 - I recently posted a question a few weeks ago. My bf and I both live in the UK and we had big argument on his birthday and he refused to accept my card and gifts for him and told me is done. I saw on his Facebook he had been sexting and sending money to a girl whole ... (472 words)

Why does my ex keep tabs on who I date? What can I do?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2789 days ago

29 April 2017 (F)

age 30-35 - It’s ok if he moves on and is in a relationship but its not ok for me to do it?. I’m not saying I let him get involved in my life but my question is what can i do for him to stop/protect myself. (I actually don't let him get involved. He finds out this info and I only tell a ... (353 words)

I've been with my boyfriend 2.5 years and never had sex. I think he's in love with his ex

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 2783 days ago

29 April 2017 (F)

age - Hi. I am 56years old and my boyfriend is 55. I have been with him for 2 1/2years. Lived with him for 14 months out of that time. He has never made love to me although he says he loves me. I also found out, reading his own words that right before me he had an affair with a ... (175 words)

Why does my wife lie about her sexual past? I overheard a convo she had with a friend. Should I tell her?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 2790 days ago

29 April 2017 (M)

age - I have been married for many years my wife had a couple of sex partners before we met. She always said that when she was with the them that they didn't have a lot of sex which would not have bothered me if she did. My problem came up as we talked about former sex partner ... (208 words)

I need to forgive myself.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2789 days ago

29 April 2017 (F)

age 30-35 - The guy I used to date for a short period of time, kind of dumped me in a very rude way. Well I wanted to dump him too, but I tried to do it in a decent way. He got angry and simply dissapeared, not before making me feel like crap. I wished I could see him once again, I dont ... (135 words)

I wish I could get over the love of of my life.

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 2783 days ago

29 April 2017 (F)

age 51-59 - Hi there. I was involved in a long distance relationship for about 4 and a half years and broke up almost 10 years ago. I feel foolish and dumb to say that to this day I cannot seem to get over her. She was my first kiss, my first love, and my first everything. Prior to ... (505 words)

Best friends--to choose or not to choose?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 2783 days ago

29 April 2017 (F)

age 41-50 - ****My first question was incomplete, ignore. Please answer this one!**** I am friends with these two guys for about 9 years. They are both married. I noticed over the past 4 years the relationship with the two of them crossed over so many boundaries in terms of how they rela... (397 words)

Does my friend have a fetish for trans guys?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2790 days ago

28 April 2017 (M)

age 26-29 - Dear Cupid(s), I have a cis-male friend who identifies as gay. I don't know if this is something I have noticed being transgender myself, but the only guys he has outwardly said he's attracted to when we are out, or together have all been transgender. I don't know if this is ... (213 words)

Is this guy I met online showing serious red flags?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2794 days ago

28 April 2017 (F)

age 30-35 - I joined an online dating app two weeks ago haha, put a few pics of myself up and filled up my bio which tbf was pretty detailed. Anyway I got a message out of the blue from this guy, not unusual ofc, but he lived like 5 hrs away (on the other side of the UK) which I found od... (344 words)

What is going on with his ex? What should I do?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2789 days ago

28 April 2017 (F)

age 26-29 - Hi everyone, some of u may remember me from my past questions.. Ill give a little background info. Around october i was really active on this site, I'm 19 years old (now 20) and i was in a really toxic relationship with a 35 year old man.. It was hard to get out of that but ... (1085 words)

He went to a strip club, I went to see male dancers and an "eye for an eye" isn't feeling good right now

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 2790 days ago

27 April 2017 (F)

age 30-35 - I feel like the back story is needed (see below). But, my question is how do I let go of the fact my boyfriend went to a strip club TWO nights in a row while on business? I eneded up going to a male strip club for a girls night recently, now I'm just pissed off at him all over ... (516 words)

The fiance, the step daughter, the baby mama and possible cheating!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2785 days ago

27 April 2017 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello, I have been engaged for over 2 years to the man of my dreams. However,we dont get along all the time. He has a daughter and I have a son. Now, his babymother is in the picture and my son father is not. But he gets his daughter every weekend. I never knew how hard it... (291 words)

My husband wants to move to another country. I don't

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2790 days ago

27 April 2017 (F)

age 30-35 - My husband wants to move overseas to expand his business. He already has a team abroad but wants to be there in person. Long story short it makes sense for the business I, however, want to stay here. I'm not fond of the country he wants to move to and I don't even know the la... (158 words)

How would men feel if they joked about something sexual and their partner said yes?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 2790 days ago

27 April 2017 (F)

age 41-50 - Before I start, let me just say, I am not a woman of the world. I didn't lose my virginity until my wedding night, aged 24. Me and my husband have been married 12 years now and are still very much in love. The problem is our sex life. It is very standard but I want it to be so ... (222 words)

My boyfriend has a fetish for my work clothes, is that weird?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 2703 days ago

27 April 2017 (F)

age 41-50 - My boyfriend has a fetish for my work clothes, is that weird? I work in an office and wear skirts and blouses on a daily basis. When I first started dating him he said he loved what I was wearing but recently it seems to have got even more intense. I wear a lot of silk and ... (145 words)

Is it too late to change careers?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 2794 days ago

27 April 2017 (M)

age 36-40 - Not sure if this is the usual question on here but I would love advice. I work in finance, managing retirement funds. I have been in the industry for over 10 years and have been good at it. Lately I have felt incapable of making decisions following a few poor choices that cam... (158 words)

Is it normal for men to have sex when women are having their periods?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 2794 days ago

27 April 2017 (F)

age 36-40 - I'm meeting up with my bf next month who stays in another city. The problem is that the date when I will be going, I might be on my periods. I've told him that already to which he has said that he's fine with it. What can this possibly mean? Is he in love with me to a great ... (93 words)

Boyfriend promised to pay for salon visit after being told the price then backed out but is willing to spend $$ on his niece??

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2795 days ago

26 April 2017 (F)

age 30-35 - Last week, I told my boyfriend I'm going to get my hair colored for the first time. I showed him photos to get his opinion. After I settled on a style, he said he wanted to treat me to get my hair done. I told him he didn't have to do that and it will be at least a couple ... (268 words)

I don't have alot of experience with dating but not sure if what is going on in our relationship is normal

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2794 days ago

26 April 2017 (M)

age 30-35 - I've met this girl and we've been seeing each other for a little over a month. Both of us have never been in a relationship before so it's all new to each other. Whenever I'm around her I feel as if everything is so easy, talking and life in general and she makes me very ha... (390 words)

Did I do something so offensive that my b/f needs to rethink our relationship?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2792 days ago

26 April 2017 (F)

age 36-40 - Soooooo my bf and I have been together for a few years now. We have a mutual friend who we've been cool with for a decade. This friend chills with us every other day. My bf feels like our friend doesn't respect him and has attempted to talk with him about their relationship, ... (274 words)

We used to text a lot up until yesterday. Should I be worried?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2791 days ago

26 April 2017 (M)

age 41-50 - I've been dating a girl for about a month or so no. We really get on and when we are together time flys, we text quite a lot too.. More or less every morning she sends a good morning message, if she falls asleep before receiving my good night text. However, yesterday... (204 words)

My partner versus my children. Am I over-reacting about it all ?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 2794 days ago

26 April 2017 (F)

age 36-40 - I've had a big argument with my partner and I'm wondering if I'm in the wrong about it all. I have two children from a previous relationship who are 13 and 11 and I think they are well behaved. They do extremely well in school, at parents evening my daughter's teach... (392 words)

On a break from boyfriend and have a job offer in another town

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2794 days ago

26 April 2017 (F)

age 30-35 - My Bf and I are on a sort of break right now. We are still with each other but spending time with our own families to reassess what we both want. There is a job offer for Me far away from home but I won't be happy there (I will like the job just not the place). At home where I ... (101 words)

My girlfriend is promised in an arranged marriage.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2794 days ago

26 April 2017 (M)

age 30-35 - Hey guys, I desperately need some help. There is an issue in my relationship with my girlfriend. My Gf is 2 years elder than me and damn we love each other a lot. We intend to get married, but due to her family pressure (as we belong from an Indian society and we're both M... (489 words)

Married with kids and a husband I don't love.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2117 days ago

26 April 2017 (F)

age 41-50 - I'm married with 2 kids, there isn't any real issues with my marriage nor my husband. For some time now I have felt like I don't love my husband anymore, it been over a year now, I don't enjoy his company, he doesn't interest me and I really struggle to get myself to be int... (483 words)

Our relationdhip is boring and I am just noticing what a scruff he is!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2795 days ago

26 April 2017 (F)

age 36-40 - Hiya everyone me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years we have a 1 yr old son together but lately my feelings have completed changed for him I notice all his bad habits and have now realised how boring the relationship is we never go out anywhere as he doesn't drink ... (119 words)

How can I stop being intimidating and build lasting relationships?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2794 days ago

26 April 2017 (F)

age 30-35 - I have always had difficulties with relationship with men and I genuinely want some advice and help. It would really mean a lot! I have grown up to be a perfectionist since I was young. Mastering four languages, national level in art, three instruments and now studying med... (462 words)

Is he cheating on me if he's flirting in public with other girls? Should I kiss him for the first time at the party?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2795 days ago

26 April 2017 (F) age 22-25 - hey guys i need some help. I am dating this boy that i have strong feelings for. But recently I see him flirting with some other girls like playing around, like poking their stomach,laughing,and talking a lot to each other in front of me knowing we are together. I know he ... (158 words)

Time to break up? Has the love faded? We talk less now and have less sex now.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2795 days ago

26 April 2017 (M)

age 26-29 - Don't know if I should break up with my gf of 8 months. As the relationships progressed we've moved apart, we speak less, have sex a lot less, and don't get on aswell. The thing is, I know this is expected to some degree as a relationship goes on. But i think about breaking up ... (451 words)

Was I harsh for just blocking him ?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2797 days ago

26 April 2017 (F)

age 30-35 - I had been talking to this guy for almost 2 weeks and we went on 3 dates. Up until now he has been extremely attentive, the dates were great and I actually walked into the 1st date expecting nothing to come of it. There has been 0 sex involved, so that is out of the picture, ... (294 words)

Am I cheating on my boyfriend? ? Hope not.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2795 days ago

25 April 2017 (F)

age 26-29 - Am I cheating on my boyfriend!! I downloaded tinder to relook at my old profile which he knew about and I used it for a couple of days and got chatting to one Man for a while. Little thing or anything but i dont any feeling toward him ! But now I feel bad i have talked to... (235 words)

I want to communicate more openly with my mother, but how? And once a girl is not a virgin, does one tell a parent or not?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2794 days ago

25 April 2017 (F)

age 22-25 - Hi I'm 17 and will be going to university this year. I've always been really independent and mature (so I've been told many times) and apparently act beyond my years. I guess I've always felt the need to be independent, considering my father being in and out of my life for the ... (818 words)

Why do many men prefer a tight vagina? Or do they? 2

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2792 days ago

25 April 2017 (F) age 51-59 - Why do many men find a tight vagina so appealing? I was a late bloomer and lost my virginity to my current husband when I was in my 40's. I was married previously to a man who suffered erectile difficulties and was never able to have intercourse with me. But my husba... (162 words)

He's still receiving messages from women on a dating site he joined earlier. How can I raise the subject with him?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2795 days ago

25 April 2017 (F)

age - I met my man through a dating site and all is fabulous 13 weeks on. He says I'm the one for him, and I love him dearly. Since we mutually agreed, that we are 'in a relationship' we both decided to cancel our match accounts. Mine is gone completely, and closed., however... (198 words)

How do I deal with my rude and bossy co-workers? 2

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2796 days ago

25 April 2017 (F)

age 26-29 - I am in a sticky situation. I've been at my job for a little over 6 months. I think I'm rather a good workers and me and the managers hit it off well. The problem I'm having is with some of my co workers. I know it sounds juvenile but there are a few that are very rude to ... (234 words)

Where do I stand in this relationship? What can I say to him to get the answers I need? 2

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2795 days ago

25 April 2017 (F)

age 26-29 - So I've been talking/meeting this guy since last May, which is nearly a year ! He says he doesn't want to rush into a relationship because his last girlfriend cheated on him. And he tells me to be patient for a relationship because he will have to get to terms with having ... (356 words)

Are the things we find attractive different for men and women?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 2795 days ago

25 April 2017 (F)

age 41-50 - I can appreciate attractive people but find that in order to get aroused by a man or turned on , I need to know him and feel an attraction . A man simply looking physically attractive is not enough to turn me on. Therefore pictures of random naked men have never done anything ... (108 words)

Should I be mad because my friend helped get me fired?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2797 days ago

25 April 2017 (M)

age 30-35 - I was working with this girl K and my friend L and her friend C. Our boss LO, was always ingrained in L's life calling and texting her, and L asked me to make him stop with the text messages. After a while I discovered that LO was spreading rumors about me. When K started ... (231 words)

His feelings for me changed so quickly!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2284 days ago

25 April 2017 (F)

age 26-29 - Can someone's feeling for you change in two months? My ex and I broke up in September 2015. We didn't speak for 4 months then out of the blue one day he texted me. We started talking, and hanging out as just friends. We talked about stuff like what if we got back together, w... (382 words)

I need to tell him I only want casual sex, not a relationship!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2703 days ago

25 April 2017 (F)

age 30-35 - I met this guy on a dating app and we have been on two dates so far. I don't think he and I are compatible but he's very nice and good-looking. I cannot see a long-term relationship forming from this AT ALL, but would like to turn it into FWB if it is possible. How should I let ... (245 words)

My b/f made fun of me and called me a pansy because I refused to do something that I felt was dangerous

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2797 days ago

24 April 2017 (F)

age - I know we all say things to hurt our significant other's feelings at times. Something happened this weekend, and it might sound dumb, but I need another perspective on this. My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years. He isn't afraid to take risks and likes to stay ac... (347 words)

Should I not have told him how I feel?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2797 days ago

24 April 2017 (F)

age 36-40 - Is it wrong to say how you feel? I've posted before about how a good friend of mine ignores and doesn't reply when something goes wrong and never makes an effort to initiate conversations after an argument. We hooked up a couple of times and I've had feelings for him... (544 words)

My g/f hasn't changed her status on FB yet does that mean we are not broken up?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2797 days ago

24 April 2017 (M)

age 36-40 - My fiancé and I have been together for almost three years and engaged for 7 months. I wrongly accused her of having a 'thing' for her brother in law a few times which has led to us having a 'break' for a few weeks. We reconciled but it took some time for me to forget and dr... (185 words)