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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

She kissed another guy! How could she do that?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5775 days ago

28 February 2009 (M)

age 41-50 - I have a LDR and my girlfriend that's so far away called me and told me that she had made a mistake and that she and this guy kissed.. But she promised me she is not seeing her any more. We have talked it out but... I still feel like weird... from the inside... Like... how ... (61 words)

Should I break up because of a sparkless kiss?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5723 days ago

28 February 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I haven't kissed my boyfriend because I'm nervous. I won't feel the sparks like eveyone says, I really like him honestly I don't want to wreck it with a kiss and I don't want him to end it because I'm a bad kisser. I never kissed anyone so how do I kiss a boy like when do I ... (84 words)

Every time we get really close he seems to pull away.

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28 February 2009 (F) age 51-59 - Every time we get really close he seems to pull away. I know he was very hurt before by a girl he loved and who was very disrespectful to him not even going to his mothers funeral and they lived together for years. with me he loves but yet will find something little to get ... (225 words)

How to bag him for myself???

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5775 days ago

28 February 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - If I really like someone and that guy, I'm really close to but he doesn't want to be in a relationship now... what shall I do to get his heart because it is really hard for me to forget about him. He is exactly my type of guy and I really adore him and he really likes my ... (82 words)

Why is he so tough and unreasonable all the time?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5775 days ago

28 February 2009 (F)

age 51-59 - I took the situation the wrong way and was hurt and angry. When understanding what really happened I realized I was wrong and apologized. He told me I was being disrespectful to him to not even say goodbye. Now he is angry and said he needs time. If I call him I think it ... (121 words)

Why would girls prefer the chasing of a guy instead of the safety of a relationship?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5775 days ago

28 February 2009 (M)

age 36-40 - So I just had to break up with my gf of 7 months today because I found out that a month earlier while we took a one week break she asked an ex of hers out and only took me back because he rejected her. I know it's not like she cheated on me but that's still a shitty thing to do ... (231 words)

What should I do here for the best? I'm so confused!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5775 days ago

28 February 2009 (F)

age 51-59 - Well I feel kind of silly asking strangers for help but I don't know what else to do or who else to ask. I was a single parent for a couple of years when I met my current partner, at first it seemed like the ideal relationship, he showed interest and love towards my son and ... (290 words)

Should I keep me mouth shut and hope for it all to fall in me favour?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5775 days ago

28 February 2009 (M)

age 41-50 - Me best mate is a woman. I've been in love with her since Year 9. She is getting married in six months. She frequently tells me she's getting cold feet about it all and I try to reassure her that she picked the right guy. But in my heart, I know I am the right guy for her. I ... (297 words)

Comingout question

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5770 days ago

28 February 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - hello. i am a male, 18, and have recently decided that the time has come to tell my family that i am gay, but i have no idea how i should tell them and am worried that i will just run off when i am about to. also, should the truth have come out earlier - will it be unexpect... (75 words)

What is causing the unpleasant 'fart' noise during sex?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5769 days ago

28 February 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - sometimes when i have sex with my boyfriend, i make an unpleasant 'fart' noise. it only happens when i go on top and i won't do this now even though my boyfriend likes this. i thought it was the condom but i dont think it is anymore. what is causing this and how can i stop it ?... (58 words)

I resent that she's turned the tables on me and wants me back AGAIN.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5775 days ago

28 February 2009 (M)

age 51-59 - Having read much of the excellent advice given on here I am hoping that someone can help me. Over my 17 year marriage my wife and I have split up 3 times. The first time was after 8 years and was partly because of my social anxiety disorder affecting out social life (now cured) ... (442 words)

I think I have schizophrenia, but I don't know how to tell my family...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5775 days ago

28 February 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - Hey people fellow advice givers, well, I have schizophrenia, and I just don't know how to tell my parents, I mean I have not been diagnosed with it but I have researched alot about is and I am really convinced that I am,and i want to tell them, but I am scared of what they ... (100 words)

Everyone knows we're lesbians but our parents, should we tell them?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5775 days ago

28 February 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - my best friend erin (yes she is a girl) and i have been dating for a little. we've fooled around and made out. everyone who knows us knows that we are gay. they've seen us make out in public. the only people who dont no are our parents. we dont no if we should tell them but i ... (67 words)

Why does he tell me he wants me and to marry me but doesn't do nothing?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5775 days ago

28 February 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - Please help. What is it with me. I spilt up with my ex 6 months ago. I have thought bout him everyday missing him. Wishing he was here. Wandering what hes doing.wanting him back. He has just come to me and said that he loves me so much and realises what he had with me. He was ... (376 words)

What should you do with your hands when you kiss a guy?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5759 days ago

28 February 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - When you kissing a guy, what should you do with your hands? I always end up doing nothing with then when he is having a good feel but I am a little shy to feel him, will that come with confidence, even when he put my hands on him, I just kinda freeze.... (54 words)

I'm feeling a little unsure..I'm dating a "womanizer"

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5775 days ago

28 February 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - I have liked this guy at work for a while and we finally snogged, the thing is I am not the type of girl normally just to do that sort of thing and I think he now thinks we have this sort of work thing, it was good but I am very shy and to be honest I don't have a clue why I ... (134 words)

He had sex, said he loved me but now says we shouldn't be together

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5775 days ago

28 February 2009 (F)

age 51-59 - i met a guy in may 07 whom i work with. he is muslim and very religious. we were instantly attracted to each other and started to spend alot of time together. one thing led to another and we had sex. things changed as this was wrong in his beliefs so we tried to be just frien... (304 words)

What is he REALLY saying?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5775 days ago

28 February 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - hello i really really need your help. wt does it mean when a guy asks you to ask him what you mean to him, and then so u ask him and he says to me your a gurl?? is that him blowing me off or is that him not being able to tell me how he really feels. help plz... (69 words)

I care about him too much to be just a "hang out partner"

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5775 days ago

28 February 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - So. I have a friend I've known since middle school and we have been hanging out together alot. I've expressed an interest in him, and he kind of backed away for a while. When I started kinda ignoring him he asked me out on a date and since then it's been really relaxed kind ... (196 words)

Why is he such a playboy?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5775 days ago

28 February 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I know this guy (22), you could call us friends I guess. We we drunk and ended up kissing one night. He wanted to have sex but I said no and left. I found out the very next night he tried to do something with a random girl! And we went to a party with all of our mutual friends ... (140 words)

Should we have sex or not?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5774 days ago

28 February 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - Im really young but my boyfriend and I want to have sex. we have fooled around naked but never did it for real. should we go for it or wait. [Moderator's note: Please add your real ages in case you registered with a wrong age which is the one that will be displayed. Thank you.... (55 words)

I accepted his apologies, why doesn't he accept mine?

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28 February 2009 (F)

age - I got jealous and was mad and Hurt. In turn i hurt him because he looked at differently and saidthat I was being disrpectful. Which looking back I was rude and disrespectful but I was enraged. things appeared to be different than they were. After talking with him I understand ... (115 words)

Doubts about an ex!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5775 days ago

28 February 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - my partner and i have been together for a year. when i met her she was renting out a house to her ex girlfriend and also her ex had taken over vehicle payments on a leased car. my problem with it all is that my girlfriend wont stop helping her out because she says she feels bad ... (149 words)

Moving country for a bit and unsure what to do with the guy I care for immensely?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5775 days ago

28 February 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - Ok. Me and this guy had been texting, bumping into eachother on the odd occasion and having very few one-to-one sit down chat sessions to start off with. But one thing is sure, there was some major sexual chemistry between us both. A month ago he visited me (spur of the mom... (331 words)

My "text" affair has gone wrong and I fell for him, any advice?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5775 days ago

28 February 2009 (F)

age 51-59 - I am a happily married woman who has been having a text 'affair' with an older fella who I met through work although we don't work together. He is in a position of high standing and he has made me feel good and given me confidence. I feel he started the flirty stuff and also ... (332 words)

Is he playing head games and should he be ignored?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5775 days ago

28 February 2009 (F)

age - Color me confused here, but here is the situation. I met a guy online, we hit it off great. He was funny, intelligent, compassionate...all of the things women like. We have been chatting via phone and IM for a long time and then boom out of the blue, he starts playing head ... (234 words)

"Maybe", "Let Me Think About It"...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5774 days ago

28 February 2009 (M)

age 36-40 - Hello. Ok, for the last 2 weeks I have liked a girl that works in a pharmacy nearby my house. I am really bad at conversations and every time I try to talk to her when checking out, I end up looking like a completely and total idiot. Most of the time, nothing comes out when I ... (279 words)

He's having sex with someone else, but he finds no problem telling me about it.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5774 days ago

28 February 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend and I been going through some shit lately. He's having sex with someone else, but he finds no problem telling me about it. He tells me it's only because of the kids he loves me, so it's best if we keep just a friendly relationship. When I do and I associate ... (165 words)

Sickness Phobia

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5773 days ago

28 February 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I am 17 years old and I have a fear of other people being sick, I've had it as long as I can remember. When I was younger I was scared of being sick too but I've kind of grown out of that, I don't like being sick but I am not terrified of it half as much as I am terrified of ... (201 words)

My boyfriend's best friend is unconsciously trying to sabotage our relationship!

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28 February 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - I think my boyfriend's best friend is unconsciously trying to sabotage our relationship! His best friend is a girl and anyone with working eyes can see she has a thing for him. My boyfriend insists they are just friends, though. But when he says that, I can see it in his eyes ... (267 words)

A married woman and me...Relationship complex??/

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5745 days ago

28 February 2009 (M)

age 51-59 - Hi I answered few questions of the group... all of them related to relationship with a married woman. My question is to seek ways to come out of the feelings left out in my mind even after I stopped the relationship. Really shattered. I sometimes feel like I have committe... (107 words)

How can I stop this mindset and get over him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5775 days ago

28 February 2009 (F)

age - I lived with Tim for 8 years. We owned a home together and moved out last April. Main problem was his ex-wife and his kids. The Ex harrassed and stalked me during those years, I did have a restraining order and she broke it 21 times. The kids were older and the youngest ... (182 words)

What can I do? My boyfriend is in love with his ex!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5775 days ago

28 February 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - My boyfriend is still in love with his ex!! I asked him to tell me truth if he still loved her and he said yes but he really doesn't want to be, they split up years ago but this is the only woman he's ever been in love with and the only woman that he's ever seen himself ... (102 words)

Is it bad to fall in love with your own aunt?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5775 days ago

28 February 2009 (M)

age 36-40 - Please HELP, I am a young guy and I fell in love with my mom's sister and we both are in love for 2 years, we did everything (kissing, licking, pressing) but not sexual intercourse, is this bad to fall in love or to marry own aunt? This is not a one sided love, we both love ... (84 words)

He's so hot he could get any girl he wants. Is he interested in me???

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5775 days ago

28 February 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - How would I know if he likes me! I'm in matrick, almost 18, he is 25 and my youth leader. He is so nice, but he is nice to everybody, he is supposed to be. I like talking to him, he makes me smile and laugh. At church he he always says hello and talks to me a lot. I have no ... (140 words)

How can I start talking to her without looking like an idiot?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5775 days ago

28 February 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - Hey anyone and everyone :P Basically my situation here is that there is a girl on my bus to college in the mornings who I really can't stop thinking about but we have never said a word to each other and I'm not the most confident of people, rather shy in fact. I'm ok whe... (215 words)

Have I been single for too long?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5775 days ago

28 February 2009 (F)

age - Hi, As a single parent of 2 teenagers still reeling from the effects of acrimonious and lengthy, energy-sapping divorce I have lost all sense of self and fun and ability to enjoy life. Since the failure of this relationship I have had problems with confidence, esteem and ... (261 words)

Is this really a size zero diet?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5775 days ago

28 February 2009 (?) age 30-35 - If I do a 2-4-6 diet, for example, one day fast, the next day eat 200 cals, the next day 400 cals, the next 600 cals, and then the next fast again, and go round in this cycle would it be possible to get to size zero? With only doing small exersise, for example, 15 minutes ... (111 words)

Do you think dating other girls can make her jealous or do you think my hope is lost?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5764 days ago

28 February 2009 (M)

age 36-40 - I dated this girl for about a year, pretty much all throughout our senior year of high school. we took things very slow and over the course of the rest of the school year and into summer we fell in love. We were each other's best friend and told each other everything. we had ... (1435 words)

I am afraid to perform fellatio, can there arise any problems from this?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5773 days ago

28 February 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - i am afraid to kiss my boyfriend's penis or suck the fluid off him but he wants me to do that. is that safe is there no problem in sucking? is there a problem that can arise in the future from this?... (42 words)

I have probably took my virginity away by masturbating and I'm scared!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5767 days ago

28 February 2009 (F)

age 26-29 - my mom thinks i'm a virgin.but i really don't know either.Because i have been masterbating and probaly unvirgined myself.what should i do?tell my mom or get checked but my mom has to come with me?if she finds out that i'm not she is going to kill me.... (47 words)

I like him but I get the sense he can't be bothered. Do I forget him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5775 days ago

28 February 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I've started talking to a guy lately, we have known each other for three years through friends but we have never really talked properly. He texted me a lot for a few days but then started to lose interest, I texted him but I could tell he couldn't be bothered so I wasn't goin... (129 words)

How can I last longer? It's driving me insane!!!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5775 days ago

28 February 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - There is a huge problem. For the past couple of weeks, every time my girlfriend and I have sex, I don't last... at all. I last maybe a couple minutes, and then bam. This never used to happen up until pretty recently, and I feel like there's nothing I can do about it, it is ... (83 words)

She's looking for a job in the states but I want her to come and live with me.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5775 days ago

28 February 2009 (M)

age 41-50 - I am having this LDR for 4 years now... My girlfriend went to the usa to study and I remained in Holland where I have my own House, and a good job. My girlfriend don`t want to move back to europe because she has a better job opportunity in the United States. She is done with ... (103 words)

Can you suggest ways that I should confront him?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5775 days ago

28 February 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - I did quite a bad thing: I know my boyfriend's email password and decided to check his mail last week. I came across photograph's of a young man in his underwear with captions. Obviously I want to confront him about this, but without him finding out that I obtained the ... (126 words)

Is it just a guy thing? Does he need time apart from me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5775 days ago

28 February 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - Do you think this is normal? Is it just a guy versus girl thing? He needs space when there is a problem I need to talk and get resolution. I called him 3 times, this a.m. and he said I am starting to push him away. Now I understand he needs time and by me calling, it drives ... (64 words)

Am I too controlling?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5775 days ago

28 February 2009 (F)

age - When he gets angry he needs to take time to himself. I think that things should be talked about immediatley and resolved. I just called him and he said that by me calling him I am pushing him away and that he just needs time to get over his anger. He is stubborn but he loves ... (160 words)

I feel like an old stupid woman!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5760 days ago

28 February 2009 (F)

age - I am a 53 year old caucasian woman. Been married for 28 years. My husband is 58. Have four adult children lost an only son to suicide. My husband cheated on me for 1 year with three asian young women. He had a five month affair with one and took her on 2 vacations to San ... (256 words)

He only ever sees his side of the story!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5775 days ago

28 February 2009 (F)

age 51-59 - We get along perfectly. We love each other but when we have an issue he won't work on it and runs away into his cave. I don't understand this. Why won't he try to work on it. We love each other and when we are together it is fabulous, it is when we are apart that things get ... (175 words)

I text this guy when I am drunk!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5775 days ago

28 February 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - help me! i cant help but text this guy when im drunk (not saying anything bad tho) sometimes he texts me back..and we talk.. i texted him last night..saying something unnecessary ..something i didnt need to say hasnt texted back going to see him at college on monday ... (102 words)