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Archived questions from: July, 2008 (see latest questions)

Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

I'm a fat chick needin' love!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5987 days ago

31 July 2008 (F)

age 36-40 - I met my boyfriend 2 years ago, and when i did i was very athletic and weighed 161 lbs. i got pregnant, and got fat. i now weigh 268 lbs. he does not want to have sex anymore, and actually stopped when i began to gain weight in the beginning. he says it's not because of me, or ... (173 words)

How does chlamydia happen in a monogamous relationship?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4875 days ago

31 July 2008 (F)

age 36-40 - Hello, I have a very weird question. I have been with my man for a few years, in what I thought was a monogamous relationship. I got a checkup a while back, and they said I had chlamydia. They also said that chlamydia can only be spread through oral, anal, or vaginal sex. I ... (132 words)

Did I make a mistake by never making an effort with my ex girlfriend when I had the chance?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 5987 days ago

31 July 2008 (M)

age 36-40 - I had a girlfriend who was really nice to me, gorgeous, independent, smart (college grad), never asked me for material things, cooked for me, took care of me when i was sick, there for me when i needed her, faithful-- and i never made time for her. i blew her off and never ... (266 words)

How do I know if I'm bisexual?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5495 days ago

31 July 2008 (F)

age 41-50 - Hey I'm a bit confused about my sexuality i mean I'm getting married in 5wks to the most fantastic bloke I could wish for but I fantasize about having sex with women when I watch porn it has to involve at least 2 women I've had 3 somes with women and enjoyed them but still ... (92 words)

I feel controlled by my girlfriend, but I wonder if I am the one in the wrong.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5983 days ago

31 July 2008 (M)

- Hi, I'm having problems with my girlfriend but im not sure if it is me who is in the wrong. I'm 30 and she is nearly 27. We have been going out 4 mths now, and I normally see her a few times a week. However she doesnt like me arranging social activities with my friends without ... (265 words)

She's abusive. What should I do?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5862 days ago

31 July 2008 (?) age 30-35 - My girlfriend is 19 and i am 15. Recently we have been argueing lots because i went around to her house and found mens cloths and used condoms all over her place. So i asked her what was going on and she said she has had a few mates over for a party. Then we got in a fight a... (95 words)

Is there something still between me and my ex?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5962 days ago

31 July 2008 (F)

age 36-40 - I had a conversation with my ex boyfriends friend who i had never met before. He asked me if i still had feelings for him and i admitted that i did. A couple of other of his friends were around at the time, would i be niave to think this information wouldn't have got back to ... (183 words)

I have a lot of white discharge and no matter how many times I go to the doctor, it just son't go away.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5987 days ago

31 July 2008 (F)

age 41-50 - i am so sorry this is so long. i just want to know if anyone else has this problem. i have heaps of white discharge. all the time for about 2 years now. maybe a little less. i thought it was yeast ifections. so i would treat it as such and sometimes it would go away. it always ... (269 words)

Does he truly love me, or is he with me because I do stuff to him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5962 days ago

31 July 2008 (F)

age 30-35 - this is my 4th bf but his the only guy that actully kiss me...then well we started to play around. taking our clothes off but we just touch each other we don't do more than that is that natural in a relationship he tells me he loves me but i'm not sure if he love me fo... (112 words)

I'm worried that I look too young! How can I look older?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5986 days ago

31 July 2008 (F)

age 36-40 - I know most people are concerned about ageing and looking older than their years, but I'm worried that I look TOO young! I'm 23 years old, and I'm often mistaken for 16 or younger. Once or twice I have even been mistaken for 12 (of course this was from children who wer... (165 words)

We would text all the time. Now he won't reply. I don't mind if he doesn't fancy me anymore, I just want my friend back.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5960 days ago

31 July 2008 (F)

age 30-35 - I have been texting this guy that is around my age...a few months younger. We flirt all the time and he always compliments me which makes me feel really good and also makes me like him more. For example, if we see eachother that night and I am texting him later he will ... (204 words)

I'm new to the UK and trying to figure out sexual behaviour here. Any statistics/experiences/advice?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5987 days ago

31 July 2008 (F)

age 41-50 - I was just wondering: In the United Kingdom, what is the average sexual behaviour of people? Are the majority of people ok with no strings attached sex, or do most prefer waiting for a relationship? And is it a foreign concept to wait until you are married? If some of the ... (97 words)

My periods have been regular for more than seven years - until now. What could be causing the difference?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5984 days ago

31 July 2008 (F)

age 30-35 - am 17 years old and started my periods when i was 9 and they have been regular but this month my period only lasted 3 days when they usually last for 5 to 6 days there is no chance of me being pregnant i was just wondering is this normal ... (50 words)

I texted my ex happy birthday and he didn't even reply. Why would he just ignore me?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5966 days ago

31 July 2008 (F)

age 41-50 - Hello, I hope someone can help me. I feel I have no-one I can talk to about this and its churning around in my head. My ex and I split up some months ago and since then we have had very little contact. today was the first birthday he has had since we split and I texted him once ... (125 words)

Hot? Or cool? What sort of relationship is this really?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5987 days ago

31 July 2008 (F)

age 36-40 - Kinda long..sorry..I met this really cute guy at a night club. We danced last few songs. Got his number. A few days later I go to his place. We kiss and hug (didn't hit 3rd base), but after we talked and laughed for a few hours. I then saw him again about a week later. Same ... (254 words)

I need to tell him how much I like him, but I don't want to ruin our friendship.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5986 days ago

31 July 2008 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm 17 years old and just graduated from high school. I like a guy who is turning 17 August 9th. I've liked him for about 5-6 months now and I'm not sure if he knows I like him. We've been best friends for two years now. After getting advice from my friends I reluctantly asked ... (396 words)

I'm trying to organise something in my community to bring people together. Any ideas?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5986 days ago

31 July 2008 (F)

age 36-40 - ok so i'm trying to organize something in my community to bring people together but ideas that will interest people are prooving quite hard to find, in general people act kind of apathetic and closeminded but there is so much more to them when you look. i want something that ... (111 words)

How do I try to overcome these intense feelings of jealousy??

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5987 days ago

31 July 2008 (F)

age 30-35 - Well i'll just get straight to the point. I like this girl and I have done for quite a while now, and she doesn't feel the same way back. Which I'm coping with, not easily but I can deal with it. But the biggest problem at the moment is, if i know she's spending time with ... (150 words)

I've dumped my boyfriend once before and regreted it. I don't want to make the same mistake again for a guy that comes off as a player.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5987 days ago

31 July 2008 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm 14 and I had this friend for a while. We dated for a few weeks and I gave into peer pressure and dumped him. We became best friends but I regretted it everyday of my life for about 7 months, when we started dating again. We've been dating for 2 months now. The first month ... (424 words)

He doesn't know what he wants, I keep being dumped and picked up again.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5987 days ago

31 July 2008 (F)

age 41-50 - My boyfriend have been on and off for years. After 5 years i asked him are you sure you really want me?Because lately id been feeling like im more than a nuisance in his life. He spends time going places and doing things with his mates sayin im not adventurous enough or dont ... (184 words)

I'm getting paranoide about my boyfriend's marrieds, female friend. How can I keep myself calm.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5987 days ago

31 July 2008 (F)

age - Maybe I am blowing this all out of proportion (past scars and all that), but i am very anxious about tonight... my bf has a friend who's a girl and they've been hanging out a lot, and enjoy each others' company. Also, they have nearly identical careers in a major way. She is ... (119 words)

I really need to understand what his fascination to 'let loose' all over me is all about!

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 5258 days ago

31 July 2008 (F)

age 30-35 - What is with the male fascination with porn and cumshots? I guess I don't understand the appeal of it. Maybe some of the guys can explain it. I can always tell when my b/f has been looking at porn because he will pull out during sex and let loose on my tummy or chest. I don'... (84 words)

Can suffering from S.A.D. "Social Anxiety Disorder" affect your sex life or performance?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5987 days ago

31 July 2008 (F)

age 51-59 - Does anyone suffer from social anxiety disorder? If so, how does it affect your sex life/sexual performance? Do you suffer from feelings of embarrassment or guilt after having sex with a new partner?... (34 words)

Could it be because he can't betray his dead wife's memory?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5987 days ago

31 July 2008 (F)

age - Other people said we looked good together on the dance floor, and we have so much in common its uncanny. we are roughly the same age and just by coincidence he lives in a small town a long way away, but I have a flat that I rent out just virtually down the road to him. he gave ... (187 words)

I feel she's changed, and now it's making me feel very insecure. What should I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5969 days ago

31 July 2008 (M)

age 41-50 - I've been seeing my girlfriend for about 6 months now. Since she got back from holiday she has been different. We were very much in love. Telling each other every day how we felt. Since she has been back we have been different. She doesn't tell me how she feels any more. Beca... (181 words)

Do women like being told straight-up that you fancy them?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5976 days ago

31 July 2008 (M)

age 36-40 - Hi everybody. I really like this woman at work and have done so for a couple of years. However, I only see her about 2/3 days a week usually, though when we are around each other we get on well. I don't know if she likes me, but I just have to tell her how I feel about her. ... (144 words)

How can I deal with this? My stepmom won't let me have extended visits with my mom anymore?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5987 days ago

31 July 2008 (M)

age 30-35 - Last night I was watching TV and when I had to go to bed I saw my favorite show was on, so I decided to watch it, when it was done I went upstairs to find my stepmom watching me. Because she knew I didn't go to bed, I got in trouble, and now she blames my real mom because I ju... (105 words)

Any suggestions as to helping me sort out these problems I have with my girlfriend?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5940 days ago

31 July 2008 (?) age 30-35 - My girlfriend and me have together for a year. But there's a few problems: 1: She has some body issues. She wears baggy clothing. (She thinks she's fat and she's not). 2: Trust issues. (Thinks I'm cheating - which I'm not) All because most of my friends are girls. I did noth... (79 words)

When I like someone, my old shyness problem awakens again. Why can't I be myself?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5987 days ago

31 July 2008 (M)

age 30-35 - Well i thought i had dealt with this problem, and i have for the most part, but when i like someone my old shyness problem awakens again. And because of this anyone i like - i cant act normal and like myself around because of how i lock up. But this has also made me have prob... (108 words)

He's like a chav, but he's also like a real gentleman, and I really like him. I don't know what to do.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5769 days ago

31 July 2008 (F)

age 30-35 - Well this is a big story sort of lol. Well i am 13. I like this boy who is in year 9. He has been out with girls my year but i really like him. He is like a chav but is also like a real gentleman. I really like him and i think about him everyday, he has recently split up wit... (108 words)

Confused about my ex and feeling really blue, again! Please help.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5986 days ago

31 July 2008 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi, I have wrote on here before and got some really good advice, but im afraid i need help again over the same sort of problem. For background see http://www.dearcupid.org/question/confused-about-my-ex-and-feel-really-blue.html well its been longer now and i thought i was do... (309 words)

I felt he must have thought something of me, or am I being silly here?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5987 days ago

31 July 2008 (F)

age - I cant make this guy out. I met him on holiday we didnt have sex although he was trying his best every day!!! He got angry becasue I didnt, but then when he returned back he emailed me and asked to meet up, and we did, a few days later (he doesnt live near me). We met afte... (281 words)

All 3 fancy me, so which one do I choose?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5987 days ago

31 July 2008 (F)

age 30-35 - well basically ive known these three guys since primary school till now, and we've all been good friends. All three of them fancied me at some stage in primary school but i have found out over the last couple of weeks that they all still do. problem is, now we are at an age o... (106 words)

I'm heartbroken. I want to confront him about what I discovered, but I don't want him to know how I found out. Please help.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5980 days ago

31 July 2008 (F)

age 30-35 - i have been with my boyfriend for only like a month. i have fallen pretty hard for him. everything about him is perfect to me...and everything always seems to fall into place. the other day he lost his cell phone and i found it today at my house. I DID look through it...whi... (106 words)

I love my girlfriend's best friend. I am confused.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5987 days ago

31 July 2008 (M)

age 30-35 - ok. so i have beem going out with this girl for over 3 years now. but recentley, she made a new friend (a girl), me and her got talking and became good friends. But in the past few dasy i have started to realy hate my gf but dont have the guts to tell her. But the b... (142 words)

He was so nice to me, and then he said I'm not giving him the space he needs. I feel lost.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5987 days ago

31 July 2008 (M)

age 41-50 - I have a question. I was supported by a good friend during a very painful breakup. He and I became a little more than friends as we talked multiple times a day. He decided after we talked to come out to Arizona to meet me for a four day weekend. It was love at frist sight ... (746 words)

Should I give it one more shot with my ex or move on this other great guy?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5987 days ago

31 July 2008 (?) age 30-35 - my ex and i had been apart for 3 months and then here he comes (lets name him Will) and saying that he made a mistake and learned what he did wrong and asks me if i want to give it another go. and i still had feelings for Will. thing is our friend (lets name him James) has been ... (248 words)

I have had it with this guy and don't want to see him anymore, but my Dad doesn't back me up

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5987 days ago

31 July 2008 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi, I'm hoping someone can help me with my problem. (i'm sorry it's running long)There was this guy from my church who really likes me. In the very beginning, he was sweet and really polite and fun to ahng out with, yet he is an illegal citizen (which isn't to say he isn't a ... (414 words)

He was into foursomes in the past. How do I make sure he isnt into that anymore?

This question has 42 answers - newest was posted 5986 days ago

31 July 2008 (F)

age 41-50 - My question is My boyfriend was once married, and then come to find out he and his wife were into foursomes, when I ask him about it because I just want to make sure that he doesn't still have those feeling because I won't do it he get mad at me and walks away, he keeps s... (149 words)

I am a ratty person and I get annoyed when I crave something and don't get it

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5987 days ago

31 July 2008 (M)

age 30-35 - My GF wants a break away from sex as she said she gets hurt sometimes, im worried that this will make our r'ship break because I know sex aint the only thing in the relationship but it is one main key to a relationship. I'm a ratty person and I get annoyed when I crave for ... (68 words)

How can I support my boyfriend during this trying time?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5987 days ago

31 July 2008 (F)

age 41-50 - Hello- Was wondering if you guys could give me some insight on this situation: How to comfort a loved one during and after the death of a family member. My fiance's grandmother is very ill and has just recently stopped eating (which is usually a sign that things are shutting... (120 words)

Can you answer questions about sex?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5987 days ago

31 July 2008 (F)

age 30-35 - can you answer quetions about sex?... (6 words)

I am in love with my boyfriends best friend

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5646 days ago

31 July 2008 (F)

age 30-35 - i have a boyfriend that i have been seeing for a year now,problem is he broke up with me two times and asked me back and i accepted,thing is now his best friend says he is inlove with me and i am inlove with him too, i think about his best friend more than my boyfriend..me and ... (84 words)

Please let me know how to handle my crazy jealous wife!

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 5658 days ago

31 July 2008 (F) - I need advice this issue is tearing us apart. I met a friend online from another country. I find chatting with her interesting. There is nothing being said that is inappopriate. She is just interesting adn from a country I have always been interested in. My wife is crazy ... (389 words)

I don't know what I should do if she cheated on me!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5987 days ago

31 July 2008 (M)

age 30-35 - i really love my girl friend we hav been together for 3 years in 15 and shes 18 wut should i do if she cheated on me for i dont know 3 weeks should i go back out with her ? she cheayed on me cuz she heard i was cheating her which wasnt true.... (55 words)

I adore my internet boyfriend, but now I'm worried that he's cheating.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5939 days ago

31 July 2008 (F)

age 30-35 - Dear aunts and uncles, Im in an internet relationship, He lives in America and im from the UK. We've been together 1 and a half year 1.7 on the 3rd. We've always spoke in the morning and at night but recently he said he wants space, and doesnt want to talk in the morning. ... (162 words)

How can I make my first time having sex enjoyable?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5975 days ago

31 July 2008 (M)

age 36-40 - Hi DearCupid, I'm 23 and a virgin. Basically, my question is how can I make my first time having sex an enjoyable one, or at least partially enjoyable? You seem to hear that everyone's first time is a disaster, awkward, or embarrassing, so how can I minimise that to a... (116 words)

Am I over-reacting about this 'friend'? She and I are on a break.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5987 days ago

31 July 2008 (M)

age 36-40 - My girlfriend and I are on a break, but she has told me that just just needs some space and time for a little, and then we can be back together, when she has sorted her personal things out. She has said she won't do anything with anybody else in this time, and even though we ... (377 words)

He talked me into sending him pictures of me in my underwear, I promised myself I wouldn't and I did. Now I feel stupid and used!!!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5986 days ago

31 July 2008 (?) age 30-35 - Hey. I know that when you read this you'll think Im stupid, naive and easily led, but I know this already and Im so full of regret at what Ive done. Basicly, I know a lad (we're friends), he is two years older than me. I knew I should stay away from him, I knew I should forget ... (399 words)

Would it be wrong to place an ad in a paper asking for someone to get me pregnant?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5987 days ago

31 July 2008 (F)

age 41-50 - My husband can not get me pregnant do to a surgery that he had many years ago. My question for this community is this. Would it be wrong to place an ad in a paper asking for someone to get me pregnant?... (44 words)