 Tisha-1, posted
over a year ago
Hi, go to this page when you're logged in: http://www.dearcupid.org/private/account and scroll down about halfway, there's a text box there for you to fill in called "Information about you". You can't miss it.
Answers are moderated by volunteer mods who read over the answers and determine if they are suitable for posting. Not every answer gets on, there are guidelines that are followed.
Here are some reasons for rejecting answers
Offensive to the question asker
Not helpful
Stupid one-line comments
Could cause question asker anguish
Are in kiddie/txt speak e.g. "hello m8 chattin watz up......" or ALL IN CAPS
In addition, if the answer is insulting other aunts or the poster, it will not get through. I posted a little rant a while ago on a thread that had gone nuclear. The text follows below. I'm not suggesting that your answers are any of these things, this is just informational for others who might read this:
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Personal attacks with insulting, hurtful language, without any advice whatsoever other than inappropriate comments, are not tolerated here. A couple of these answers just skirt that line by offering some perspective from another point of view, but aren't so hate-filled that they can't be published, have made it through.
The point of DearCupid is to offer advice, not insults, to the people who post here. If you cannot offer advice, if you can only manage insults, then do not post on a question. I'm sorry, I know some of our aunts have been deeply hurt by other's actions and are working through some of their pain by trying to advise others, but when an answer reaches a personal attack level, it is not permitted.
So if you're wondering why an answer is not getting through, take a look at what you wrote. Is it helpful to the poster? Does it offer advice? Yes? Great. Is it insulting to the poster or other aunts? Is it designed to be hurtful or cause mental anguish? Yes? Not good. It shouldn't get through. The middle area, that murky one, is where the mods have to decide if the answer has enough "help" in it that it overrides any slightly questionable language. It's not black or white all the time.
Vilifying, threatening, or otherwise being insulting and hateful to the question asker and other aunts will get answers pulled, if they get through in the first place.
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Hope this helps!
Posted on 5 November 2009 @ 17:37 (London time) - permalink
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