HELP: RELATIONSHIP + TIGHTS

SarahDesire, posted over a year ago

Hi, I am in a relationship with a guy who's got a pantyhose (tights) fetish. I'm totally fine with it and wear tights regularly to turn him on. In fact it really turns me on knowing what gets him going. I've got my own fetishy aspects that I am open about. However, he never approaches me for sex, and admits that sex was only a real turn on for him when he was a horny teenager. He honestly said that he never thinks about sex. He used to get really turned on when we were first together and I wore tights..but I think it is less of a turn on for him now that I know about his fetish..as I think an important part of it is the voyeuristic aspect (of the girl not knowing she is being watched putting tights on etc) I walked in on him watching 'tights porn' the other day..even though I was just in the other room. Not to be big-headed..I'm an attractive-enough type. Perhaps this is just a case of him getting bored sexually with me, and a sign the relationship is over? Believe me the same thing has been happening for a long time, and I have tried everything to spice things up..we've made home videos etc etc..but I just know that he prefers to masturbate and be voyeuristic and get-off that way. He's a great guy and very very good to me..but I need someone who wants to be close to me physically. I feel so unsatisfied. Should I give up on this relationship?

Posted on 13 October 2008 @ 21:54 (London time) - permalink
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martinpeterz, posted over a year ago

Hello,

Firstly, I would like to say that your boyfriend is a very lucky man.

I'm married, and although my wife knows how much I get turned on by tights she never wears them.In fact, she's not interested in sex much at all.The exact opposite of you obviously.

No, I don't think there's anything wrong with with you at all.In my opinion,from what you've said,he has a low sex drive and also cannot handle the intimacy involved in having sex with a real person.

Is he able to discuss the situation with you? Do you love him? I know you say he a great guy etc.,but thats different from loving someone, isn't it?

He certainly doesn't seem to realise just how fortunate he is in having such a sexy and understanding woman as you!I envy him.

Yet you have your own needs and if he can't or won't satisfy you, may I suggest some form of counselling? Will he go with you so you can talk it out with a trained person?

If not, then maybe you might feel that you need to look for someone else.

Tell me more if you want to-I'm martinpeterz@yahoo.co.uk

Best wishes

Love

John

Posted on 29 October 2008 @ 22:2 (London time) - permalink
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comparison of one's own spouse to others is the first sign of a marriage crumbling.Have you ever taken your wife for counseling?

Posted on 29 October 2008 @ 22:41 (London time) - permalink
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