| BillTarr, posted
over a year ago
“Although hypoactive sexual desire may be the most common complaint among couples who seek treatment for sexual problems, it may also be the most difficult sexual dysfunction to treat,” according to David Farley Hurlbert, clinical director of Marriage and Sex Therapy at Darnall Army Community Hospital in Belton, Texas.
That’s partly because there are so many different things that can cause it—and often more than one thing is involved. There may be relationship problems, like unresolved conflict or fear of intimacy. There may be psychological problems, like depression, stress, anxiety or guilt. It’s possible the problem is secondary to some other problem. There may be physical problems, like hormonal abnormalities, medication side effects or illness. Or all of the above.
And, of course, at the heart of it all is the ephemeral nature of desire itself. In her groundbreaking work Disorders of Sexual Desire and Other New Concepts and Techniques in Sex Therapy, the late Helen Singer Kaplan, M.D., Ph.D., found that unlike sexual arousal, sexual desire exists primarily in the mind. It’s not so much a lack of ability to perform as a lack of motivation to do so.
And frequently, if she's not motivated to make love to you, that means there’s some other problem in your relationship. In fact, observes Dr. Alexander, “Most patients who complain of decreased sexual desire have a relationship problem, not a true sexual problem.”
Posted on 5 September 2008 @ 9:6 (London time) - permalink
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Honeypie, posted
over a year ago