Boyfriend Not working

Hi I need some advice...my bf andi have been togetherfor 5 years. he hasnt worked for most of that time and we have a child. my bf is saying he has been thinking and its casue of my nagging he has nt got a job and doesnt go out. i worked full time when i was pregnant and now work part time supporting us...this has changed me as i have become quite angry at him even more when he starts blaimng me. i dont know what to do the more i try to help him get a job or ask him to the more angry HE becomes and says he doesnt know how long he can take me...i just want him to contribute my wage is not large and im stressed all the time and feel like im alone...the more i push him he says he will leave.. then i say go he doesnt end up going and it starts alll over again. he hasnt applied for a job in a year. he does look after our son 2 days a week ...im wondering if it is me ...he says ive changed a lot and i know i have but i feel so let down by him yet he says im the one whos let him down...i just dont know what to do??Any advice would be great causei really do need to know if it is me..i do love him which is why i havent left but i dont like him very much and he wont accept hes at fault for me being angry..ty

Posted on 14 April 2006 @ 15:6 (London time) - permalink
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I know you love him and it's hard to leave him, but you should at least get away from him for a while. Force him to be on his own. He's catching a free ride with you, and you deserve better. Don't let him just sit on his butt anymore, it's not fair to you or your child. Get out, or get him out, and then he will have no choice but to get a job. And if you two really love each other, once he realizes he must work for a living, he'll come back apologizing. I'm very sorry about your situation.

Posted on 14 April 2006 @ 21:36 (London time) - permalink
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