Am I rushing things?

J_Field07, posted over a year ago

I'm on my mid-forties, I had not been lucky when it comes to relationships, it's not that I’m some repressed middle-aged who’s never been on a relationship before, don't get me wrong. In fact, I have been on a couple of healthy relationships in the past, but for some reason they never worked out.

For quite a while, after breaking up with my former girl, I know it sounds corny, but I started to lose faith in love because I really thought she was the one. So, as a way of relaxing and having a good time, this friend of mine advised me to take one of these tours to Russia. You know, the ones that are popular these days, because he said I’d meet beautiful women. At first, I gotta say, I had my doubts, but after thinking it over, I made up my mind. Therefore, with nothing to lose (except for a couple of bucks), I went on the tour, and indeed I met this dead- gorgeous, smart and sincere gal, we just simply clicked after meeting each other, we had the best time together while I was in Russia, and ever since I came back to the states we kept in touch almost every day by phone, chat, and e-mails.

I am very serious with her. We’re on a one-year relationship now. I know it's hard to have long distance relationship, but she’s definitely worth it, plus over the past year I went back to visit her on three occasions.

We have talked about her moving to the states and she’s ok with it. Lately, I have started to think about popping the question once she moves in, of course she doesn’t know about it.

But here are my concerns:

Do you think I am rushing things? Or should I just go for it and propose?

I know it‘s hard to say, but do you think it will work? You know, my being American and her being Russian? Or is it that you think she will have a hard time adapting to America and she’ll just feel like going back to Russia because of homesickness and stuff.

Any piece of advice would be very appreciated.

Thanks

Posted on 28 February 2007 @ 23:43 (London time) - permalink
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vina_101, posted over a year ago

If you post this on the main site then you'll get a lot more responses. When it says 'if you have a relationship problem, post it here instead' this is the reason why. You should post on the main site and not on the forum. Not everyone visits the forums. I hope you get the help you need

Posted on 1 March 2007 @ 11:8 (London time) - permalink
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userid, posted over a year ago

Hello,

I do not think you are rushing it at all. I think it is a very healthy relationship. I had a long distanced relationship with my boyfriend and we moved in with one another...he and I lived 3000 miles away!

There are certain people brought into our lives for a reason...distance is nothing...

Go for it!!!!! Only you can ultimately make this decision...but if it feels right, go with your gut.

Good luck...

Posted on 8 March 2007 @ 10:1 (London time) - permalink
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