How long can I really put up with it?

My husband and I have been married for 2 years and he has been going over a woman's house consistently. The woman was working with him at one time and now she doesn't. We have been over and over this and we have even separated over this. He tells me that it is not what I think but he continues to come home later than he should(like around midnight). The woman works at night so I don't know what other reason he would have to go over there with her being at work. I am really confused. I ride by the woman's all the time to see if my husband's car is over there or not and sometimes it is and sometimes it's not. I know that I shouldn't go over there because it doesn't really serve a purpose at all other than to confirm (or not) what I am already thinking. When he comes home we are always really loving around each other and we don't have any problems in our sex life so I just don't know what to do. Should I stay or should I go? I am so deeply in love with him but I don't know how much more I can take of this. I even thought about going out with some of my guy friends and doing the same things that he is doing because he always says there is nothing there. He can't stand the thought of me doing what he is doing because I ran that thought across his mind as well and he became really upset. So I need some suggestions. HELP!!!

Posted on 4 October 2006 @ 19:31 (London time) - permalink
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It sounds like your husband is being unfaithfull in one way or another, he knows you are uncomfortable with the time he spends with this woman yet he continues to do it. I also had the same problem with my partner and it split us up a few times and caused alot of heartache, but we got through it, so there is hope. The most important thing is that your husband starts to respect your wishes and your feelings, you must lay down the rules and tell him exactly what you need him to do to make you feel comfortable with his contact with this woman, but do try to be fair don't cut him off from her completely unless you have solid evidence that she is an unsuitialbe friend and that she is a threat to your relationship, instead try to get him to limit his contact with her, for examlpe only seeing her whilst othere people are around, that way nothing can happen between them, let him know you need him to do this in order for your relationship to work and then if he does do this he is showing that he can be trusted and that he is honest then maybe you'll feel more comfortable with him eventually having little by little more contact with her.

Posted on 6 October 2006 @ 13:55 (London time) - permalink
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