Unwanted Kiss

Seren Las, posted over a year ago

My boyfriend and I have been together for 9 years, with him living abroad for the last two and a half. It had been really tough him being away and we have been through some real up and downs but now he is coming back and we are closer than ever and I have been feeling so happy. I then went to my friend’s wedding and this guy who I have met a few times started chatting with me later on in the evening. I had been drinking all day as you do at weddings and everyone was very merry but all of a sudden I started to feel very very drunk and was really sick, I of course then had to leave so ordered a cab, this guy walked me to the cab which i did not ask him to but was so drunk (all of this memory is very hazy) but I do remember turning round to say goodbye and before I knew what was happening this guy was kissing me full on the lips, it took me literally one second to realise what was happening and pulled away. I am feeling horrendously guilty as I had no intention of kissing this guy and was the furthest thing from my mind as all I want to do is enjoy the new found closeness with my boyfriend. Please help as I don’t feel like I can talk about this with anyone and am torturing myself with guilt. I don't think I could ever tell my boyf this, not now anyway, but have I done anything wrong?

Posted on 16 April 2010 @ 20:10 (London time) - permalink
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C. Grant, posted over a year ago

This is really something that should be posted on the main part of the site. This forum is more for people to chat, and isn't visited by nearly as many people.

You didn't do anything wrong with the guy. If you did anything wrong at all it was to overindulge to the point where you felt ill. The guy took advantage, and deserves a slap in the face and to be forgotten. Put the incident out of your mind and focus on your boyfriend, guilt-free.

Posted on 17 April 2010 @ 7:11 (London time) - permalink
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Seren Las, posted over a year ago

Hi Cary (I like the name by the way)

I was not really sure where to post this so I will try and look for somewhere more suitable to post it.

I agree about the alcohol, I should be more careful when I am not with boyfriend and close friends. I am annoyed with that guy myself as he knew I had a boyfriend and had met him the week before. I don't imagine he has any idea how bad I have been feeling. Part of me wants to call him and tell him, but maybe I should just forget about it as you say.

Thanks very much for your post it has made me feel better.

Enjoy your weekend

Seren

Posted on 17 April 2010 @ 14:21 (London time) - permalink
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Tisha-1, posted over a year ago

Here is where you would post a question:

http://www.dearcupid.org/ask

Personally, I'd watch the alcohol intake and stay far far away from this guy. I don't think it's a reportable offense as you didn't initiate it and you find it disgusting. The thing that would probably upset your boyfriend would be that you allowed yourself to be drunk and vulnerable and possibly hurt. What if this guy was a date rapist? Someone who would take advantage and knows the person he assaults would fear reporting it because of the possible damaging effects on her reputation?

I'd let it go and do my best to forget about it. Anyway, here's the address for asking properly: http://www.dearcupid.org/ask

Take care.

Posted on 17 April 2010 @ 20:0 (London time) - permalink
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