Paranoia is pushing us apart....

PleaseHelp, posted over a year ago

Hello

I wont disclose my name but i have a very big problem with myself acting towards my girlfriend.

At the moment she hasnt seen me for 5 days now, which is irregular for us because we spend litterally everyday we can with each other, ofetn full 7 day weeks.

It all started when she started to talk to a person through MSN/Myspace. I always told her she was getting to addicted to myspace but i tried to take an active part in what she was doing, i met her before she used myspace so i knew she was more tan just a net addict. She started talking to this guy and eventually there started instant messaging, i happened to be sitting right next to her when he asked "do you have a Boyfriend" in which she didnt reply on purpose claiming that boys wont speak to her if she says taht she has. I wansnt very happy., but i tried to see past it and tried to forget the situation (but still my BIG paranoia sprouted here).

At a later date a the same kind of convorsation arose but this timeit was my girlfriends friend pasting the convoration that this guy was having with her. (basically a lot of "oooo she said this" and "the covorsations weve been having". I immediatly stood up and walked out of her house, she followed and claimed nothing was going on and it was all lies. she deleted him off myspace and msn.....

End of part 1

Now because of that situation, i am VERY paranoid about any guy. i looked into a lot of websites talking about paranoia and have started showing strong signs of serious paranoia. The problem is, that she wont let me confront the situation with her. She tells me im all that she has got, and now she hasnt talked to me for 5 days because "she wants to see her friends" even though she said they treat her like shit.

The final straw was today when we were going to sleep down her uncles house with her family, in which i had bought her flowers in an attempt to talk it over....

She cancelled on msn...

and i flipped, throwing my keyboard and shouting, but, nt expressing how i felt to her and accepted her decision.

I think she is acting liek this due to my over powering paranoia, i ahve already talked to friends about it who say we are both in the wrong but i could be isolating her by suspecting every guy...

What do i do?

I want to get over my paranoia, but also i dont want to annoy her.

I worship the groung she walks on...

please anyone help...

Posted on 10 September 2006 @ 0:24 (London time) - permalink
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Yos, posted over a year ago

It's not acceptable that she says she is single on MySpace. That would make anyone paranoid! You are not crazy for this being a problem for you, quite the opposite.

You need to try not to obsess over this, it sounds like you might be. See your friends, keep yourself busy, keep your mind off her. If your relationship is going to work then she will have to either stop using MySpace or at least list herself as 'in a relationship'. You need to insist on that... it is 100% reasonable to do so. If she won't, I don't think you should stay with her. I wouldn't.

Good luck.

Posted on 10 September 2006 @ 12:16 (London time) - permalink
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PleaseHelp, posted over a year ago

Hey

Thanks for the reply :)

I guess im just a patient person to be honest. I dont have many friends unfortunatly, but i definatly think that keeping busy is the way to go, i always feel worse when im alone and have nothing to do.

Well i guess ill just have to keep busy and let her come around, if at all.

Thanks friend :)

Posted on 10 September 2006 @ 19:50 (London time) - permalink
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PaperHeartS, posted over a year ago

I agree you definatyely have a good enough reason to be paraniod here, I think your girlfriend is unhappy within your relationship and the two of you need to sit down and have a big heart to heart and be completely honest with each other you should suggest this to her and when you do let her talk don't accuse or get angry with her if you want this to work you need to be VERY dedicated to this relationship but most importantly to her you both need to be a little more honest with each other this my not bet the right relationship for either of you keep yourself busy have this chat with her and if she doesn't change her ways leave the relatiosnip.

Hope this helps you.

Posted on 6 October 2006 @ 14:11 (London time) - permalink
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