Landlord crush????

amazing, posted over a year ago

Hi there. I will try to be breif.

I've always easily attracted a man and am aware of my own appeal. I am in no way an outrageous flirt, but if there is a man I do like, I will flirt with him on a subconscious rather than conscious level. Over some time period, I have found myself very attracted to a man who happens to be my landlord. I am 33 and am a very private kind of person but have a wealth of knowledge and life experience and have travelled and done things with my life that I guess makes me a curiosity for some people - not all, but some.

Anyway, somehow and I don't know when, but he began acting very strangely around me many moths ago now and once ran up to me whilst my back was turned and stood right behind me that I was completley unaware at the time what he was doing? he has shown an interest in me and stands and stops as if he wants to say something to me and acts in other strange ways I respond positively but do not attempt to make any moves when he is married and has children. I am a deeply moral person and have never and never would go out with a man who is married or committed to another woman even though I know that people can and do have an attraction for one another.

The behaviour has been going on for some time like this and yes, I do find him very desirable too. I don't want for our friendship to be in any kind of jepordy and am sure that it is just fun on his part but he exhibits very strong attraction towards me I sometimes have no idea of what to say or do except to remain impartial and do nothing to attract any unwanted attention from him but there have been times when I have simultaneously flirted with him subtley and he is aware that I also like him too. He used one of his friends to send me dirty text messages once to see if I was 'easy' but I responded to these messages with disdain and humour but making it very clear that I would never get up to anything he was sugessting for me to do with him. My landlord knew about these messages and when he came around to do building work on the property, was discussing me with other builders and trying to get them to get off with me.

I never did or would have done much to my landlord's dissapointment. But how on earth I could possibly have found my landlord attractive when he was doing this concerns me greatly when I am a very selective and wise kind of person. He was putting my safety in jepordy with his friends who were also married. I never encouraged or went with any of them I am so above that and have far too much self-respect and dignity and am into monogamous relationships only. My landlord must have had my respect in the end for not doing what he may have thought I would have done or he pressummed that I would have disturbs me!. But this doesn't explain why he behaves in the way he does around me or what it is he is really wanting from me? - I still find myself attracted to him even though I know that he is like he is but I would never act upon my feelings. I just don't know how our tennant - landlord relationship is going to work out any more after the experiences I have so far had with him. He is older by 15 years than me and should know better for a professional man with a wife and children and yet he is quick to disguise his atraction as he does show it.

Am I on another planet? - I am now questioing myself as to whether I radiate an 'easy meat' aura despite the fact that I am very insightful and compose myself with such self-respect and dignity and intelligence. How could this have happened and why is he still pursuing something in me I am completely unaware of what it is he wants from me . I thought that he liked me for me and got him all wrong somewhere along the line after I discovered that he was trying to get his friends to bed me! - He used to be such a decent kind of person I could at least trust and now I look at him with fear in my eyes of what he will do next or if his interest in me was mine in him all along? It is all a little mixed up but then why does he behave around me the way he does if I am not inviting it?

Posted on 21 August 2006 @ 14:59 (London time) - permalink
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snowbird, posted over a year ago

He is obviously interested in you and is 'testing you out'. But he is doing it in an increasingly creepy way, and I would certainly question his morals.

Discussing you with the builders is SO out of order, and you have every right to be furious with him. I wonder what his wife would make of all his shenanigans.. a part of him wishes to appear to be faithful to his wife, so I suspect he would like someone else to 'test you out' to see if you are 'good in bed' - therefore worth putting his marriage in jeaopardy for! - On the face of it he is projecting his "family values", and appearing to be a decent man, but under the surface all sorts of murky depths appear to be coming to the surface.

I do hope you are not alone in his company for long enough for him to talk you into a compromising situation - it would seem such an easy excuse should he turn out to have rapist tendencies. Sorry if I am overstepping the mark, but of course it does happen, and he does seem weird! A high percentage of rapes occur when the victim knows the perpetrator, and a landlord has a huge opportunity to spend long periods of time with his female tenants without his wife suspecting!

The thought must have popped into your head at some stage when he has been running up to you from behind, etc - (you do mention that you are now looking at him "with fear in your eyes")! That incident must have given you quite a scare - surely he must realise that?!

I do hope I am barking up the wrong tree, but better safe than sorry..Maybe time to move??

Posted on 23 August 2006 @ 13:33 (London time) - permalink
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