think my bf is sleeping with my mum!!!!

me and my bf are living at my mums house with my brother and his pregnant gf! im not sure if im leading myself astray or if im right. but we are together all day except at nite when i think he is going into my mums room. i thought he may have been txting her but then realised that if they he can get into her room at night why the need. the 1st day he moved in my mum sed she had pulled a bloke called dave and i woke up the next morning and in the ashtray there was a normal cig and a roll i asked my brother if he had been down for a fag and he sed no. which leads me to believe it was my bf and he says no. another day he goes in the living room whilst im still in the kitchen to give mum her coffee but i felt something was up as it seemd like ages and i slammed the door handle down and mum states that she was not doing anything which to me seems a bit odd...but i thought i may have made her jump but still...its stuck in my head and i go over and over it in my head that they are. i give him the trust to go in the front room whilst im there but today i asked him not to look at her unless im lookin but still catch him doing so...like today when she walked in the room he sorted looked her up but says he was just looking at what she had in her hand. my mum says to me in an arguement cause i acused her of sleeping with him that she is not that sick in the head and my bf says he isnt leaving the room. he said he will do a lie detector and i called his bluff and sed ok and i havent gone bk on it yet and he seems ok with it...thou when i mention things about mum when im annoyed with him it comes across as if he is sticking up for her abit but im not sure if hes just trying to avoid an arguement. but at night the bed is pushed against the door and it has a slid lock my brother says he would know if that was happening and would here the door but im not so sure. plus my bf doesnt seem to hug up to me at night much which is making me think it more. and my bro says that he must be quite if hes doing it in with her cuz he would notice a noise but my bf can be quite when doing that. i dont know whats going on and i really need some advise cause im getting so exsorseted with trying to stay awake as long as possible and feling quite ill. plzzzzz help is it me being stupid or isnt it??

Posted on 16 July 2009 @ 3:6 (London time) - permalink
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I think u need to sit down with your mother and boyfriend and talk about this. Tell them how u r feeling and that it is making u ill. ask them to tell u honestly. If u still cant get any were then i think u need to have a break. u obviuosly have trust issues with ur mother. or perhaps ur insecure about relationships. But im not saying that to defend them. But be sure thats all. Your health is the most important.

Posted on 6 December 2009 @ 17:44 (London time) - permalink
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With the Cougar trend growing more & more popular alot of Mom's have done this with their daughters boyfriends because they are aware through experiences that these guys won't stick around & the daughter will find a better guy one day. Don't accuse without information but if you already don't trust him,make him move out or you'll go crazy & possibly destroy your relationship to your Mom who really does love you,but SEX is a powerful thing especially when these males are living in your house,and the times have changed so much now that most women don't feel alot of guilt over using their daughters sisters or mothers men for sex! It's a shame but it is true!

Posted on 31 January 2010 @ 6:23 (London time) - permalink
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