Need womens help

jimmym, posted over a year ago

My girlfriend left me a month ago. They say you need to give it some time to let the emotions calm down. I know the feelings are there, there were never fights, just a lot going on in her life, a lot of stress. I want to try to repair the relationship. How long should I wait before contacting her? What should the approch be? I've talked to a lot of people about all this, and it is a very bizzare thing that has happend, everyone who knew us, said this just doesn't make sence, it really doesn't. She was happy, and so was I. Help please...

Posted on 27 January 2009 @ 5:15 (London time) - permalink
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Henna, posted over a year ago

Well firstly you definitely need to give it time. Plus maybe you are willing to "repair" the relationship but she isn't. and you cant push for something to happen when she isn't willing for it. Give it time and then just talk to her to see how she is doing and what's her frame of mind. Maybe by then she would be less stressed and willing to work through things with you AND MAYBE NOT. that would be hr choice but take it easy for now. Goodluck.

Posted on 4 April 2009 @ 9:39 (London time) - permalink
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EscortHusband77, posted over a year ago

The best thing you can do to attract her back is the less obvious. You have to ignore her and show that you can stand up with your life even with her out of the frame. Even better if she knows you are going out and seeing other girls (no need for details, or the need to parade you new GF or whatever). She just needs to know that you are not staying at home crying and waiting for her. That is extremely unattractive and will not get her back.

Another thing is that she should know that something has changed about you. It could be something really trivial like hairstyle, or the bar you go to. This acts in a subconscious way and indicates to her that there is a new part in you for her to discover.

The worst thing you can do is to call her and declare you love. Call her as YOU WOULD DO FOR A FRIEND (you must be congruent). If you meet her, show her that everything is going good, and your social life is active even without her (again you don't need to tell her you shagged your secretary on monday, be subtle - less is more).

Posted on 30 October 2009 @ 4:3 (London time) - permalink
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EscortHusband77, posted over a year ago

NEVER be clingy or needy, or you will lose her

Posted on 30 October 2009 @ 4:4 (London time) - permalink
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EscortHusband77, posted over a year ago

FOREVER I mean

Posted on 30 October 2009 @ 4:4 (London time) - permalink
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daisydiane, posted over a year ago

Learn to love & respect yourself then you won't care if someone leaves you because your better off that way since an insane person would leave you if you truly love yourself & you'll be happy to be rid of the heavy weight amen!

Posted on 31 January 2010 @ 7:11 (London time) - permalink
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