Breakup

Portshaw, posted over a year ago

My wife of sixteen years has recently decided that she is going to leave our marriage. We were both young when we were married, but we didn't have the burden of a child to keep us together. We loved each other and I thought that was all we needed. We built a tangible estate together and we waited almost nine years to have our son.

We both love him so much and we have both devoted our lives to him. I don't stay out late/go out with friends. I help with homework and dinner and laundry, etc. I'm here every night, but at the same time, I'm glad when my wife can get out with her friends to blow off steam. What can be wrong with me?

It is my wife that doesn't want to be here. I have read so much about female "Mid-Life Crisis" and I know that this is what I am faced with. What can I do? I can't try any harder.

It has been less than three months since our separation and she has just spent the weekend in Las Vegas with her new man (who last time I checked was still married). He is nothing more special than me, physically or emotionally (one of my friends says he's a zombie).

Why would a caring and devoted woman leave a long time caring and devoted husband for a man that has not yet left his wife for her?

Does any of this make sense?

Posted on 28 April 2008 @ 6:35 (London time) - permalink
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borbav, posted over a year ago

I dont know what to say man, I am kind of in the same boat. My wife and I have been married for 7 years, but were together 6 prior. We were highschool sweethearts. We now have two awesome kids that I love spending time with. She is now saying she needs a break, and has even flirted with the idea of divorce. She tells me there isnt anyone else, but I am having a hard time believing that. I totally understand what your saying about spending time with your son, because I am the same way, I would rather hang out with my wife and kids instead of going out with the buddies, unlike her. She lately has been talking about going out with her girlfriends, on a girls night out. I am so frustrated and hurt. If there was another guy in the picture I wish she would just tell me so that I could just move on, but she promises there isnt so thats what makes it so hard on me. But stick in there and pray about it my brother, thats all you can do. God will bless you in so many ways.

Posted on 29 April 2008 @ 21:25 (London time) - permalink
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Portshaw, posted over a year ago

Thank you. I've been praying and I'll continue to pray. "Thy will be done". Like you said, I wish she would just tell me so I can move on. All I've heard is little bits from friends and that is enough to put the whole picture together. I just need to hear it from her. Why won't she tell me? Does she think she'll hurt me any more? If it comes out later, it will just bring my hurt back to square one. I need to have it all out in the open now, deal with the pain, and move on. Thanks again.

Posted on 2 May 2008 @ 5:55 (London time) - permalink
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