Shall I stay or move on. I want her back

Need some advice here, me and my girlfriend(ex) broke up just last week. I am her first serious boyfriend I never expected that it will end up like this. we've been together for 1 and a half year and we never had a fight. I was really shocked and i cannot believe that it will happen. She told me that we need to talk, she told me that her feeling for me is not the same as before and I ask what are the wrong things that ive done, she said that there's nothing wrong with. She said that the problem is with her. She wants some things to do in her life that she never did before. She wants to decide about her career but she cannot do it she cannot do a career move because she is concern about me. She also said that she could not handle our relationship anymore and she's still not ready for it. There were so many reasons. After 3 days i went to her apartment to talk to her again about our situation but she still refuse in getting back with me. She told me another problem and she said that she's the only one who can solve it. She told me that her problem is that she still cannot move on with her past love which is 8 years ago, she said that she still have feelings with the guy who broke her heart and this guy never been her boyfriend. The story of them is, they were in a courtship stage when the time she decided that she wants him to be her boyfriend, the guy got married another woman. I know this story before she became my girlfriend. When she told me about this, i decided to give her space and time for her to realize what going on. She also said that we cannot continue this relationship if she still cannot let go of the past. But I feel that she doesn't mean all the things she said and I'm still hoping that everything will be back to normal. I don't have a contact with her for one week now. This situation affects me so much because all the time we've been together are happy times and all of a sudden it ends up like this. right now i really don't know what to do. I cannot the things that i enjoyed doing before. Everywhere i go and everything I do is she's always coming to mind. Please help with your advice. thanks

Posted on 16 April 2008 @ 9:24 (London time) - permalink
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its not really easy to lose someone who's part of your plans and been an inspiration in your daily lives. let time heal the wound. try to talk to her for the last time, after that give her a space. give yourself time to think as well. she asked for a space then give respect. she just needs time to completely let herself go from the past. trust me, i've been there. it took me 4 years as well before i let go of my past. worst is, we have a child. its not that easy to forget. but be a supportive friend.

Posted on 16 April 2008 @ 16:27 (London time) - permalink
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