Just Broke Up

i wrote my question on main but i decided to write here too as it's more likely to be answered. Well I guess we’ve broken up for the past week and a bit, but yes2day….Well early this morning it turned official. The weird thing is I was okay, no crying, no getting upset and no begging. I guess I already knew this going to happen so I did my crying, getting upset, worrying much earlier. It’s was kind of an easy break, him seemed okay it about, I was okay about it. We agreed to be friends, which I’m okay with. But I think I need to cut him out for now, don’t get me wrong I love him so much – too much, but if this is going to work I need to get out of my head there a chance for us. Well there is a chance, but if hold on to that hope I’ll move on and I need too. I always thought we’ll be together, get married, have three kids, own our own home. I guess I still do, I love him and I always will love no matter what. Starting to wish we did the own one last time thing….shame. What a waste ha-ha…. There so many things I’m going to miss about him, the way he looked at me, the way he smiled, the way he laughed, the tried to sing, the way kissed, the way he included me in things, the way he teased me and fooled around. Even the way he argued with me…lol…so much too miss. Including some explicit things I can’t mention. Lol Before I start rambling on, my question is when is it right to move on? I don’t feel like mourning the end of my relationship. I feel like moving on with my life, like I’ve done my crying, my worrying and done my being upset. So is it wrong of me to move on now, I may know what I want to do but I still have this feeling of guilt. I love him still but I can’t wait forever for him to turn around and realise we belong together. And I feel like it’s wrong to want a little happiness for now. So should I wait or move on.

Posted on 15 April 2006 @ 23:5 (London time) - permalink
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I don't know the details of what happened and of your relationship together. That's left to your friends and family. All I can give is general advice which I hope is useful and objective in this case given what information you've given in the message. First of all, breaking up is very difficult. However it ends you need to deal with it. Many times in the message you've said that you think there is a possibility that you could get back together. But you admit that if you continue to think that you won't get on with your life. I think you need to make a choice here. To get on with your life or to pick up the relationship. Get on with your life. You may be at a stage where you can't see what possibilities there are out there. As time goes by that will change. There are so many things out there for you if you are willing to look for them. Lots of friends and new relationships. Lots of experiences. So try not to dwell on the past and regret now because that would be wasting your time. Why you may think that there is still a chance. If the break up is not final. (It sounds like it is here), there is an opportunity here for you to learn something about yourself. About what you want in a relationship. I think you're caught up in the fact that you love him and can't imagine not doing so. What I've learnt in life is that you can love and care for many people. Love does not necessarily mean that happiness will follow or that a permanent relationship such as marriage will eventuate. There are many conditions that need to exist before 2 people embark on a life together. It sounds cliched but maybe you two weren't meant to be! The things you did together you may or may not remember fondly. I hope that you do and that it has now become a part of who you are. That doesn't mean you won't miss him (the person that you loved who acted in a loving way to you) but by breaking up you two have decided that that can't continue. Don't worry. You can go on. Life is full of possibilities. Good luck!

Posted on 16 April 2006 @ 2:32 (London time) - permalink
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i grateful for your reply but i thinking moving on might be the right thing for me at this time, i love him and i know there is a small chance for us as he said so himself. i'm just wondering if i'm moving on too fast coz i love him with all my heart but our relationship kinda broke down and i feel maybe the space and chance to date other people good for us. i want him to be happy and he isn't with me at the moment, so he needs to try new things without me and other people. i need be myself again, i need be with someone just for the moment and not to think about the future, i need to get that feeling of control back. at the moment i'm still lingering after him, wondering wheter to contact him or not. but anyways were friend and i like us to be at least that, but i wondering if i should cut him out just for now so that i can move on for the moment. idk maybe i'm not ready after all... i just don't want to linger anymore

Posted on 16 April 2006 @ 4:23 (London time) - permalink
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