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Gritdog, posted over a year ago

i'm 19 and am a duty manager, she is 17 and is at college with no part time job. we had been seeing each other for 6 months with a week break up after 2 becos i didn't tell her about the fact i may have a child on the way to a girl i slept with once. we got through this and she sed wots in the past is in the past. we started seeing each other nearly everyday in the last month. we got together shortly after she broke up with a boyfriend she had been with for 3 yrs...he cheated on her 3 times and the last time she had enough of him. weneva his name was mentioned she wud talk about him like a piece of crap an she even spat at him in the street once.

then on sunday night he text her and asked if they cud at least not be enemies. she agreed to this an sed if she walked past him she'd at least say hi. then on tuesday she went out with friends an he was with them.....she stayed out all day with them......and on wednesday nite she met up with him and his mate with her mate while they wer out....i got paranoid about all of this.....i'd always sed i didn't mind if they wer friends but because it all happened so fast i got worried. she sed she cudnt cope with me being paranoid and ended it. i've tried to make it up with her an explain that it was only becos it happened so fast tht i got like tht but she now says tht she doesn't want to be going out with her friends and worrying bout wot i mite say if sum1 sees her hugging a friend etc......i really dnt mind this becos i know she has alot of guy friends an i've met them all and know they wudn't do anything....but most of all i know tht we loved each other that much she wudn't have cheated on me. to make matters worse her uncle passed away on the saturday. can anybody help me? i want her bak 2 much? i probably put too much pressure on her with us seeing each other all the time and she is only young but she wanted to meet as much as me.....i think we shud spend a bit of less time together if we do get back but first how do i get her back? i'm heartbroken....please someone help.

Posted on 21 February 2008 @ 22:43 (London time) - permalink
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, posted over a year ago

In all honesty, you can't make someone come back to you if they have fully made up their minds and I am sure you know that. Give her all the space and time she needs. Contact her one more time and let her know that you're sorry for the lost of her uncle and if she ever needs anything or someone to talk to that you would always be there for her.

Then, do not contact her until she is ready to be civil and talk to you. Until then, try focusing on yourself. Keep yourself busy and out of focus - *thinking about her*. She is young, yes. So are you. You both have a lot ahead of you. If you love her and want her to be happy then let her be.

I'm sorry for the break-up.

Chin up and Happy face.

Posted on 22 February 2008 @ 22:28 (London time) - permalink
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squint74, posted over a year ago

I have a bad one too. I have been going out with my gf for four months. She is 23 and has a 15 month old little girl from her previous boyfriend. We fell in love hard and fast. Everything was amazing and she told me she was in love with me on a regular basis. We discussed marriage and I was set to propose in a couple of months. We never had a single fight. The three of us spent so much time together and we were starting to look at houses too. This last week she became very distant and today she dumped me right out of the blue. She would not talk to me she did it all through email and text. She told me she is not going back with her ex and that she decided she just isn't ready for a relationship. I asked her if she still loved me at all .. she said she doesn't even know what love is. She hurt me more than anyone ever has or could. I was upset but I cooled down and decided that to have any chance at winning her back, I need to be calm and friendly. She tells me that there is no other guy. She says she has been selfish and hasn't been concentrating enough on her daughter. I am lost.

Posted on 24 February 2008 @ 0:50 (London time) - permalink
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