How do i get him back?

I had been going out with my bf for 3 and a half years, he went on his GAP year in August. He dumped me about 2 weeks ago in a very harsh way. He was basically shouting it at me and made me call him in order for him to dump me. I tried calling a while afterwards to ask him why etc but he ignored my calls for a week. HE finally picked up and we spoke and had a good general conversation, but recently he has gone back to ignoring me again. I have now given up on calling him and am thinking maybe this is the way to get him back? Things between us had not been bad at all, we were so strong. I had been over to New Zealand to visit him throughout December and we had the most amazing time we have ever had together, he was crying so much when i left, and so was i. After NZ it was still great, we were talking about how good it was going to be going to the same uni together and he had recently bought me a very expensive ring to show his love for me and kept on telling me how much he loved me.He then discovered that his family were in very bad debt and they wanted him home as soon as possible as they could no longer support him, he was planning to come home but then decided to stay out there and ignore his parents wishes.With this, he dumped me. It was not as if our relationship was a bad one, we were feeling the strain of the distance more and restriction was an issue but nothing we hadn't been through before. what do i do? i can't believe after what we had that he can't be thinking about me at all? what should i do, i really miss him and i know if he was home things would be different. please please help. XXX

Posted on 1 April 2006 @ 19:36 (London time) - permalink
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Hey there I think your boyfriend just wants time to himself just now and he is being very selfish and bad mannered in the way he is going about this.. He obviously doesnt want anyone from his home life interfering with his uni life and he doesnt like this... This all seemed to happen after the debt family issue and becasue they put there foot down and ordered him to come home, he is not a happy chappy.. There is not really anything you can do right now but wait.. Im sorry for it to be this way but your boyfriend is being very childish and you sound as if you could do a whole lot better if you just stop letting him treat you like an unwanted toy.. He expects you to be at his beck and call and this is not how a relationship should be, He is having troubles, yes, but this is no way to treat you and you are getting the brunt of his problems. I would advise you to get out with your friends and enjoy yourself get out for a little while..Do something for you.. He might change his mind as he must think alot of you but I really dont like the way you are being treated here.. Its up to you if you want to wait on him calling or if you want to leave things.. Good Luck Hope this helps Jacqueline

Posted on 1 April 2006 @ 20:11 (London time) - permalink
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