Need a break

cheche7, posted over a year ago

Hello,

I've been with my boyfriend for about two years, and we lived together for a year and a half. He lost his job last year and has been unemployed for almost a year. He is however limited by lack transportation because he has no car. Needless to say, I've been taking care of the bills and have been busting my tail working two jobs. I know the economy is rough but it just doesn't make any sense that it takes so long to get another job.

Sometimes I feel like he doesn't try hard enough, because every time I come home, he's playing video games. His hygiene has been lacking as well. He does however pick up the place and cook sometimes which is good. I lost my attraction for him. I don't even want to kiss him anymore.

I love him, but he needs to get act together. My family thinks he's bum and that I should dump him. The only thing is, I feel like I would be abandoning him when he is down and I worry that he would become homeless. I don't want bad karma sent my way.

I am very tired now and I want to go home to be there for my family, because my mom is having surgery, and my grandmother needs help. I also need to save money to go back to school.

Am I selfish for wanting to leave?

Please help

Posted on 22 March 2010 @ 2:53 (London time) - permalink
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, posted over a year ago

it sounds like a good time to take a break. I would tell him i was needed at home, give him a date, and follow thru. He surely has sone relative he can live with. I dont have a problem with a reversal of roles, but the personal hygeine would get to me. And the role reversal would need to be a mutual agreement. If it were me i would say vaya con dios, mi amigo. Mal

Posted on 22 March 2010 @ 3:41 (London time) - permalink
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Hopefulbutlost78, posted over a year ago

you wouldnt be abandoning him,he seems to already have given up on himself.Your family probably has you best interests in mind,but remember if you stay or go people will formulate opinions no matter what you do.Just follow your heart and your instincts.Talk to him,and tell him your serious about leaving if he doesnt get his act together.There is no such thing as 50/50, both of you have to go 100% of the way or it wont work out.Youre not selfish,youre human,and you deserve to be happy as he does.If he's impeding your happiness,then he's not the one for you,anyway.

Posted on 22 March 2010 @ 15:48 (London time) - permalink
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