Betrayal

bholu, posted over a year ago

My cousin and I are in a relationship. . I was married at the time and he was not. We both loved each other deeply and were crazy for each other. So we got married behind the closed doors and was not done in public. We took this relationship very seriously, and I also had a daughter through him. Then he got married; however, he promised me that he is only doing it because he had to but he will never betray me.

After a year or two, he left me and our daughter for seven years. Last year at a wedding he broke down and came back to me. even when he was not with me, I always thought of him as my ONLY husband since I had made the commitment. This time I told him that I take this relationship very seriously and that if he hurts me this time I will not be able to tolerate. So, we go on for a while and again he has asked to not have this relationship. He thinks it is wrong and he is afraid if it comes out in public. My feelings are very strong and my thinking is very different. I understand that it was a mistake we made back then but it is a relationship we had, a husband and a wife. Only because we did not do it in public does not mean anything to me. To me, whether it is a mistake or not, we were bonded by a relationship, it was true and genuine love. From my heart, he is my husband. However, he does not want to continue with this relationship.

I am just so tired of being betrayed and disrespected. My argument is, he can only ask me to break this relationship because he does not think it is real. His relationship with his other wife, who he married in public is real? I gave him my life, my world and put full faith and trust in him but he wants to break this relationship because he is afraid of facing this world. Advise.

Posted on 17 March 2010 @ 3:29 (London time) - permalink
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confoozled, posted over a year ago

You need to find someone else! He has. What kind of relationship is this? He is your cousin, you can't even be public with each other, and he has a WIFE! Who does your family think is the father of your daughter? You deserve to find someone who you can be in public with, who will be PROUD to have you as his REAL WIFE!!! You deserve better

Posted on 3 April 2010 @ 4:42 (London time) - permalink
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Nessieness, posted over a year ago

The best thing for you to do is move on, He is your cousin and he is married! two good reasons to let go of him and get whatever romance you had in the past with him out of your mind and heart..

You deserve someone who will be with you publicly and proudly, the fact that your relationship with him had to be secret and private is enough to tell you that it was not right in the first place and most certainly not healthy for your emotional wellbeing, otherwise you would not have to hide it from the world..

Posted on 3 April 2010 @ 5:5 (London time) - permalink
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