| Crystal99, posted
over a year ago
Boyfriend has 20 year history of serial cheater. Will marriage change him?
Will he change his cheating ways if we get married?
Hi, I am 32 and with a man who is turning 40 soon. We have been together for a year and a couple of months. On average we hang out once a week but lately we have been spending more time together (the past couple of months), so for a year it was only once a week.
Now, I know this sounds naive of me, but I recently found out that he had 3 more "exclusive relationships" of the same intensity during the time I was with him. Some were about 7 months and two were 2 years long. The women dumped him because of the cheating from what I heard. He also had a profile on a dating site but stopped using it when I found out.
I spoke to his uncle and he told me he has always been this way (for the 20 years he has been dating), that he always had many women and does not settle down, and has had a cheating problem. He had told me he only has had 4 relatoinships but his uncle said there have been about 200 women in his life, and that at one point when he was with me that he would see 5 different women during the week, many of them great girls for marriage.
THe thing is I kind of push for the idea of marriage because I like him a lot, he is successful, professional, and knows how to take a woman out for a good time. I put my foot down and told him to stop looking at other women. But the history is my concern. He seems to have stopped now for like a month or so, maybe it's because he got caught?? Or is he truly changed? LIke I said, his whole life he has had this problem, now he got dumped by all the other girls and spends more time with me.
Point is, he is now only with me and we took two vacations together. I went over his place one day unnnanouced because his folks were there and I had never met them. He introduced me as "a friend" but sometimes tells me he thinks about the future. He says he wants to settle down now. He used to tell the other girls the SAME THING! So I don't know if he has fixed his CHEATING WAYS!!!
At his age, isn't it possible he will settle down with me-now that all the others are gone?
OR, why is it that he never did settle down so far if he has met so many women?
I just feel more calm because ever since I found out about his cheating he doesn't log on to the dating site anymore, BUT HE STILL has the profile -did not delete it. I try to go over his house all the time so we can spend much of our time together after all of this that I found out. He seems to be behaving now. Should I trust it??
Posted on 25 November 2009 @ 12:30 (London time) - permalink
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