my boyfriend dumped me

misslonely, posted over a year ago

After 5years together my boyfriend dumped me just before valentines day. I had no idea it was coming-I thought I was going to spend my life with him and have been waiting for him to propose to me-then out of the blue he tells me that he still loves me but not as a girlfriend and wants to be on his own for a while. I am comlpletely devastated -and I don't think he will change his mind. My problem is I believed this man to be my soul mate-he has been my lover and best friend for 5 years-we have travelled all over the world together and all the good memories I have of these wonderful holidays are now tainted by the fact that they were with him-and he has now left me all alone. I don't know how to move on -and the thought of ever being with another man makes me feel sick. I don't want to feel like this -but I don't know how to make it better . I also feel like he has made me waste the last 5 years of my life because I always wanted to get married and have children-and I am now that much older and the chances of finding somebody when you are in your 30's is much less than when you are in your 20's. All my friends are settled in relationshipd and have children-so I am feeling completely alone. What do I do?

Posted on 28 February 2009 @ 22:44 (London time) - permalink
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Kristell, posted over a year ago

I understand your sorrow all to deeply, I was with my boyfriend for 3 years, he asked me to marry him last Christmas Eve, and by January 3rd he told me that his ex-married girlfriend from 6 years ago wanted a committed relationship from him. He gave me little time to say goodbye and our last date was on Valentine's Day and I had to accept his choice, but he still wanted to be "friends". My things were still in his apt.I took him all over Europe, and supported him financially for quite a while. When she started bringing her stuff in, he did not tell her much about me, so she was uninformed. It has been a year now, they got a restraining order on me,because I still had my keys to his place, and walked in on them having sex two times. I could not even talk to him about anything, and we used to spend 3 hours on the phone every night, when we were not together for all of those years, so now who I thought was my best friend is gone. Even though the time has gone by, it still feels like such a blow. I have traveled quite extensively to forget about him, but being back in the country has been difficult since they live 10 minutes from me. I have tried to date, but it feels so foreign. I hold him to blame for his dishonesty and cheating ways. I cannot talk to my friends about it anymore, as they hate him and think that I am wasting my feelings for nothing.I am a very sensitive Woman and this has cut me to my core. I did a blood ceremony with him, and we pledged that we were soul-mates and would spend our lives together. You are not alone...keep breathing deeply, I know how much it hurts.

Posted on 4 March 2009 @ 8:0 (London time) - permalink
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, posted over a year ago

Hey first and foremost --- you are going to ABSOLUTELY GET THROUGH THIS... :) That is a promise. I am now 42 (but got divorced at 33 (after 12 years together); it hurt like all hell. I got the book Men are From Mars Women are from Venus (for starting over after a death or a divorce); that sat by my nightstand and became almost like a bible to met to process the grief of what played out.

Here are some simple concepts. If this man was right for you you would still be with him (plain and simple). You did not lose the love of your life --- if he was the love of your life you would be together. What you lost was the hope for the love of your life with him. There is something better and more appropriate for you.

Just get it out and talk to friends, family and read that book or a book like it release the pain and you will come out of this better, stronger and more beautiful then before.

You are still very young. Even now at 42 (having just ended a 3 year and now a 1 1/2 year relationship) as recent as a week ago (it pain) I hoped to never have felt again, but I now know I can face it and I recognize the fact that though it hurts what I am losing is less about the person and more about the hope. That hope is still truly alive and well and each and every time you take something from a relationship you move that much closer to the one to last a lifetime. Good luck my friend. Jamie

Posted on 18 April 2009 @ 4:41 (London time) - permalink
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simojt_marjun, posted over a year ago

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Posted on 2 June 2009 @ 15:47 (London time) - permalink
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paupe, posted over a year ago

Hello,

it is like reading my story. And indeed it feels so bad. It's been more than one month from the break-up now and I feel a bit better. At first I was completely devastated, could't eat/sleep.

Well I knew that our relationship was not in its highest moment,and now later I understand what I should have done differently. I did not read my BF and the signs in time. So alongside with all the sadness I have also blamed myself a lot. It sucks to hear something like "I still love you as a friend", or "you are important to me", or "you are a wonderful person..." Bla bla. It's like stop pitying me and leave me the hell alone!!!

I like what one of the other comments say about it all being about hope and not the actual person. These situations are also an amazing opportunity for thorough soul searching and personal development. To get closer the person YOU area and come into terms with what it is YOU really want.

Be strong dears and take good care of yourselves.

Posted on 2 June 2009 @ 21:38 (London time) - permalink
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