 Sunystar1, posted
over a year ago
Somebeody please help. I need to see the light here. My now X-boyfried moved back to his town 3 hours away tonight. I am 9 weeks pregnant & have a neurological terminal illness. I have a 12 & 13 year old from a previous marriage and we share a 15 month old. We met on My Space and had a long distance relationship. We quickly fell in love and on our 4 month of dating, found out we got pregnant through birth control. He had 2 children with 2 other women. He was in 1 of the kids life part time. But he left to be here with me and the pregnancy. My health had took a turn for the worst after my 1st 2 kids and I was advised not to have kids. But I could not abored. I was willing to risk my life for new life. Shortly after moving him to my town, I found out he cheated with his baby mother the same week I concieved. I was devastated and heart broken. SHOCKED! I had a real hard time getting over it because she was still friends with his mom and it was in my face. She continued to do things I felt was intentionally to cause division. Needless to say, I had trust issues. He did try to prove his fidelity and love to me by working and coming home. I never asked for $ towards bills. I also used my vehicle to drive back and forth 3 hours so he could see his child, the one with the mother he cheated on me with. We had alot of hurt issues develop. And his mom was always trying to get him home and leave our child behind so he could come back to his older ones whom she bonded with. I could see alot of demise in her. Then he got a job working with a bunch of high school kids who were always talking inappropriate things..girls..sex..drugs! I felt this place was gonna be a problem. I began to bitch about it - and he did alot of things that made me feel second best. Then the car I gave him was not enough..he needed his own. Yet, i was paying the bills. We dealt with a lot of common relationship problems. Bottom line...I complained as he did. He said God told him this is where he was suppose to be. That i'm the one and thats why he made effort to endure the mistrust issues. We worked thru stuff most couples experience over many years in 2 years. Now I'm pregnant again (9weeks) and we had another disrespectful issue at his job. I asked him why they laugh at look at me stange. It started a fight that caused threats of key removal..seperation and we stopped communication for game play. He left me tonight and our daughter as well as my 2 older ones...which he didnt even say bye to any of the kids. He said its all my fault. I pushed him to show me. What kind of man leaves like this and still says I love you...I was suppose to be here. What am I gonna do. I'm terminally ill adn disabled. How am I gonna do this. What should I think? His mom and he both say he did not abandon me? But I begged him to stay and go to counseling with me in 3 days. Please...I need advice. If he trys to come back after proving this point for the need of freedom and less control to protect our relationship from temptation? Our baby is sick from the trauma and so am I. I am spotting and cramping & my Dr. could only prescribe progesterone to help save pregnancy. Is this my doing? Please...advice..I'm going crazy with hurt and rejection and trauma!!
Posted on 28 February 2009 @ 8:56 (London time) - permalink
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