trust problems killing relationship?

Hi im 27 and my gf is 23, we been together 2years and resenlty just split, after a long think and a good chat with her, i have realised that i have trust issues, and i want help in sorting them out and dealing with it, as i want her back in my life, and she has said if i get it sorted then there might be a chance but not a garentee. I love her to bits and she has said she does love me, and finding it hard. what do i do i dont want to lose her as i love her to bit and cant be without her thanks

Posted on 10 February 2009 @ 17:57 (London time) - permalink
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wow, I have been with my husband for 15 years, married for almost 13 years now, he has had trust issues for as long as I can remember and just in the last 4 years it really has gotten so much worse. He has gone to counseling, thanks to me telling him that I am not going to continue with the enabling and basically I am not in love with him at this time. Not sure where I am at with things other than I would rather be on my own than to have to deal with all his issues but I know I need to sort of give him a chance too. It is very hard when I have been dealing with this for the past 12 to 13 years and feel bad that I let it go for as long as I have. I was in denial for a long time. You must seek help in dealing with your trust issues and know that no matter what, you need to learn to trust yourself and just deal with whatever will come.

Posted on 11 February 2009 @ 3:49 (London time) - permalink
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thanks, we've had another chat late last night, and she has said give her time to think, that she will be in touch by sunday this week. Also she has told her mum and dad and they have turn around and said she can do better. She did say to me that she has listened but she got her own mind and thats why she wants time. We have been thro so much together as when we first got together i was open with her, as i told her that i have 3 children from a previsus relationship that went wrong glad to say not my fualt. she never told her mum and dad till a yr later becouse of what they would of said, we made it thro that and hoping we make it thro this. Im a better person with her, the better half of me for sure

Posted on 11 February 2009 @ 7:27 (London time) - permalink
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