| justaregularperson, posted
over a year ago
Hey
Right now, you must feel like you are in an impossible situation that has no way out. I promise you, there are many ways out and options you have to sort this out.
1. Are you sure legal action will not scare him? he will have a criminal record related to a sexual offence. This can seriously affect the rest of his life. He may end up on a sexual offenders register. If you go with this option, it is also the most likely way that any copies of this video will be destroyed and the matter is dealt with for good.
2. Stop paying him money right now. Blackmail never works. What happens if he takes your money, but then next month it is £60? What happens if in 6 months he asks for sexual favours? This is what will end up happening. At what point will you refuse? Say no, now.
If you don't think contacting the police is the best idea, you still need to get him to stop contacting you. To do this you might still need to get the police involved, so either way, the police seem like the best option to me, even though it might feel scary or a bit humiliating or embarrassing right now.
If it is possible to break contact with him, like simply by changing your mobile phone number, then do it. If you *do* decide not to tell the police, you need to accept that your video may end up on the Internet. The Internet is a huge place, and it is very unlikely that anyone that knows you will see it. BUT. If you choose this option, you will always have the fear that he may call you out of the blue one day, or contact someone you know.
The only way this can be fixed, and have it fixed for good so you can move on with your life is to firstly confide in someone close who you trust, and then go to the police and tell them everything. He is committing multiple offenses and the police will want to ensure this man is brought to justice, for you, and so that he is deterred from doing it to any other woman in the future.
Do not feel alone, or that you have no options. There are always options to every one of life's problems, and perhaps if I haven't helped, someone else can. The Samaritans is not just for people who are about to commit suicide, they are to support people exactly like you who are in a difficult situation and don't know what to do next. Please look here http://www.samaritans.org/ or phone directly on 08457 90 90 90.
Please believe me, that this problem can be sorted out, and you can put it behind you and move on with your life. I feel you just need some encouragement and support, and that you will do the right thing. Good luck, ok?
Posted on 8 February 2009 @ 1:37 (London time) - permalink
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B123, posted
over a year ago