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TheDoctorTheDoctor, posted over a year ago

My ex wife and I seperated 8 months.I havent even seen her since.I never really got a proper answer from her at the time of the split.As you can imagine it is constantly on my mind. I didnt even know if she was still in the town where live.Recently a work friend of mine bumped into her in town and they had a normal chat. Im anxious about bumping into my ex as I wouldnt know what to say.I might say stuff I regret. The split was ammicable at the time although things were said leading up to the split. Im slowly moving on and its been hard as there have been financial problems caused by the split which is affecting me.

What Im saying is I want closure and real answers so I can move on fully. Shoud I arrange a meeting with her in a controlled way over coffee in town?There will be no slagging each other off as Im not tha type of person.I just want a freindly meet up.Not sure if she would agree to this.What do you people think

Posted on 4 February 2009 @ 10:56 (London time) - permalink
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eyeswideopeneyeswideopen, posted over a year ago

What was the question that you need "a proper answer" to?

Posted on 4 February 2009 @ 13:23 (London time) - permalink
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TheDoctorTheDoctor, posted over a year ago

Why she left!!!She said she was "fed up".Fed up with what???She didnt really explain at the time.It was only the last couple of months before the split we werent getting on although she had become distant with me in different little ways for a while.It was petty things that was getting on her nerves which is fair enough but every couple has that,dont they?I asked if there was anyone else but she said that she wouldnt do that me.I believe her becuase that wasnt in her nature.Id be gutted if I found out that there was.I just want a final meeting.

Posted on 4 February 2009 @ 14:13 (London time) - permalink
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eyeswideopeneyeswideopen, posted over a year ago

Go ahead and ask her to meet you, at least you will know one way or another.

Posted on 4 February 2009 @ 14:42 (London time) - permalink
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TheDoctorTheDoctor, posted over a year ago

I would like to but the only contact I have with her is through mobile phone via her mum and her friend.Who should I text?

Posted on 4 February 2009 @ 22:9 (London time) - permalink
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eyeswideopeneyeswideopen, posted over a year ago

I'd go with her mum if you have spoken to her before.

Posted on 5 February 2009 @ 13:36 (London time) - permalink
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TheDoctorTheDoctor, posted over a year ago

Thats what I was thinking.Shes been very supportive towards me since the split even though we have only texted twice since and that was at Christmas.Now its just plucking up the courage to make contact.Many thanks for your replies by the way.Much appreciated :)

Posted on 5 February 2009 @ 16:25 (London time) - permalink
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eyeswideopeneyeswideopen, posted over a year ago

Take a deep breath and send Mum a message. Good luck Buddy. You aren't setting yourself up for heartache with this meeting are you?

Posted on 5 February 2009 @ 18:56 (London time) - permalink
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TheDoctorTheDoctor, posted over a year ago

No.I dont want her back.I just want closure and for us to remain freinds and then I can fully move on.Its got to that stage now where I am enjoying my single life again.

Posted on 6 February 2009 @ 8:50 (London time) - permalink
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trotman68trotman68, posted over a year ago

I am going through the same thing and I know its so hard to put closure on a relationship when you havnt got any answers.

My relationship ended, not sure why, he walked out of my life and doesnt return my calls, its been three months now and because I was frustrated because he said he loved me so much and wanted me to move closer to him and I knew he told the truth. He now placed an Harrassement order on me to stop me from texting him. (I bet you think I am mad thinking he loves me, but I know he did, thats what so hard for me as why would he do this). He done everything he said he wouldnt do in the end.

Now I am getting through day by day, I am so hurt that he couldnt face me and just do this in a nice way. I dont want a man like that, he has not thought how I would hurt and doesnt care.

I think a relationship should have in place the word respect and when someone doesnt put respect in front of anything in life, it says a lot about a person.

If I was you dont be to pushy as some people dont think like we do and respect isnt what they want to give you, then please just walk away and move on. You seem to have your heart in the right place, please dont let anyone take that from you. If she doesnt want to meet up then you know respect isnt in place and you dont want anyone that doesnt respect you in the same way.

Please let me know how you get on.xxx best of luck.xxxxx

Posted on 12 September 2009 @ 16:42 (London time) - permalink
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