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Breaking Up because of religious differences!

, posted over a year ago

Hi guys, you know I really need hugs...

Turns out supportive bf, still very supportive, but now only my friend! What a way to start the new year...

Just because I'm not Christian, things won't work out, or well that's what he says..

But that doesn't bother me at all, I'm bothered by the fact that we both really do love each other and really do care about each other, but don't want to change each other.

Not that I don't understand where he's coming from, I respect his decision.

But I still need hugs, because it really hurts.

Next week is a big week, I've a lot of stress now, trying to get the girls!

Lots of love and hugs and kisses...

Happy Crappy New Year!

Posted on 1 January 2009 @ 20:22 (London time) - permalink
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, posted over a year ago

Bugs intuition is ringing bells.Are you very sure its the religion?

In India we have lost count of our religions but still there are inter-religious marriages that work very well.

Of course it hurts.

Lots of hugs and kisses coming up your way from me.

I have a favorite quote of eyes.I miss her by the way.She says"What doesn't kill you makes you strong".Hang in there!

Posted on 1 January 2009 @ 20:49 (London time) - permalink
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, posted over a year ago

I think that is something he is puffing up to be the cause. Religion? What faith is he?

All I know, is you can pull through. You are a woman and we, especially when the love of dear children are involved, can do amazing feats!!!

*great big hugggssss*

Posted on 1 January 2009 @ 20:53 (London time) - permalink
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, posted over a year ago

Yip bugs, quite sure it's religion.

He's a Christian, I'm not, and he wants to be able to share his beliefs with a fellow Christian, not argue with them about what they believe.

I really do understand his point though, I'd feel the same... But we're both staying unattached, to see if we can accept each others religious differences in future...Then, well who knows.

I'm not dead yet, so that must make me one hell of a strong person then!

I'll pull through Fade! I always tend to.

Posted on 1 January 2009 @ 21:4 (London time) - permalink
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, posted over a year ago

I am really sorry for pointing it out to you.He should of thought of this before dating you.His excuses don't seem genuine to me.I am sorry for telling you as it is.

If you really want to work things with him I am all for it.Every relationship deserves a chance.We are all human.

You are a very strong person Wintry.Never lose faith in yourself.I know you are not a christian but trust me when I say lord never gives a yoke for our necks that we cannot carry.

Posted on 1 January 2009 @ 21:11 (London time) - permalink
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, posted over a year ago

I know what you mean Bugs. It matters if someone can just listen to your views, and not necessarily share them.

It helps you can let someone speak freely without feeling you are being attacked and to turn brain storming or spit balling into a debate.

I had so many Ex's that did that to me. And it seemed it was religious based differences but for me, it was just I need someone to listen to me, aware that I am just expressing my thoughts and that I know they don't share them.

For me, a lifestyle should mesh and not necessarily faith.

Which again, most don't get.

Current BF actually understands me and goes oh this is one of those times where I'm just supposed to listen?

I say yes. I'll figure out what it is I need by the end of it all.

It works.

Posted on 1 January 2009 @ 21:18 (London time) - permalink
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, posted over a year ago

Sorry Wintry, big hugs, and a magic wand I stole of bugs and sierra, I'm sending them all too you and hoping you can do something with them.

I'm an atheist don't believe in God, and I would have big problems with somebody that tried to convert me. But everyone around me are Christians, I encourage them to keep strong in their faith, I love to hear about the lessons at church and the things they are doing in their faith. For me it's an important part of their lives, so of course I support them, even if I don't want to do it myself. Most people I know love to share their religion with other people, share the good things like the singing, the festivals and the holidays, but they can cope with people who are different.

There are a lot of churches around that I call intolerant. They don't make room for different people, they call non-believers evil. Since I'm an atheist, makes me very happy, proves that I'm right. It's the tolerant, accepting, kind and happy Christians that cause me problems, because they preach about a religion that I actually could grow to like.

Sorry babes, maybe he'll calm down one day, at the moment he's probably scared that your non-beliefs will lead him astray. People who are strong with their beliefs can be tolerant and accepting to others, he sounds like a new christian, he still sounds like he needs to defend something. Maybe in time that will change.

Posted on 2 January 2009 @ 1:26 (London time) - permalink
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