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18-21,
anonymous
writes:ok I'm just really hacked off right now. Why do me and my boyfriend always argue over the most trivial of things?!?!?! I'll give a few examples, earlier today, I was on the phone to him, I was on my new phone, and all my numbers etc are set up on my old phone, and I recieved a text and he asked "whats that?" I told him "oh it's a text from my email." He said "I've never heard that text tone before" I assured him it was the same but he insisted on the fact that it used to be one that was apparently a lot quieter, and he started asking why I had changed it and what I was hiding, when I told him "nothing" he wouldn't accept it, just because I can never hear it when I'm shopping in the bustling local town, and during this call I was sat on my bed with no other noise going on around me. Another example, which relates to the first, is when I got my new phone, he didn't like it and thought I was preparing myself to separate from him or something, just because it was something that happened in the spur of the moment so I never gotta chance to tell him. Another example is that he hates it when I say "I don't know." When he asks me a question, and he starts shouting saying "don't say that, you know I hate it!" yet when he says it I can't say a single word about it and I've got to let it be. Another example is he gets flighty as fuck over the smallest thing, eg. not being able to put his socks on, being cold when he gets out of bed in the morning, when his earpiece doesn't connect to his phone, etc etc. I don't want to split up with him, but I never thought he would get like this around me although when we first started talking on the internet he did tell me he had a very short fuse. Then when we started meeting he was lovely for the first month, then when I decided to let him be the one to take my virginity he started getting really shitty a few days before we had sex and on the night he got stressy because he couldn't put his penis in, ever since he's been getting shitty over the smallest thing. When he's not getting shitty over something he's the best boyfriend ever, we have the greatest sex and spend the most quality time together, I love it, but once he gets shitty, he's not the same for the rest of the day at least. I feel afraid to talk to him about it but if ditching him is my last resort I'm not afraid to do that but I really dont want to. I'll give you as much info as I can about us: he's 21, I'm 18. We have been together a year and 2 months. His birthday is 31st July, mines 2nd August. We live about half an hour apart. He works 8am - evening most days occasionaly gettin a weekend off, I work afternoons/evenings Sunday - Thursday. I really want some proper help with this as I feel something can be done about it, I just dont know what.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2008): I HAD THE SAME PROBLEM! I never went to the doctor to get diagnosed with anything but I noticed that alchohol and smoking made it worse. My mom is Chinese and swears that anger is caused by unclean liver!!! Whatever but truly try to see if you can convince him to change his diet. Drink more water and maybe a detox. It helped me a lot. I used to drink so much at Uni and acted exactly like your boyfriend! I broke hairbrushes, broke up with a guy coz he turned up late for lunch, screamed my guts out all the time and just was a twat! May sound crazy but worth a try no?
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reader, karlgoo  + ♥, writes (6 October 2008):
 wow thats too bad...Is he on any medicine? is he diagnosed with any disorder? could you talk to his family about it? that does not sound normal at all for anybody..I have ADHD and when i am off medicines I get like that(very agitated easily for dumb things like socks) :( so ya
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