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18-21,
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writes:We were friends with benefits for months but i couldnt handle just having a sexual relationship. I told him and he asked me to be his girlfriend. He even introduced me to his friends as his gf and we made plans that day. But then he broke them and said that now he feels pressure about hanging out with his "girlfriend" and started freaking out about this new label of boyfriend/girlfriend and he said he didnt even know me as a friend. He kept calling me just to talk and I told him that if he wants space, I will give it to him and he said that he does. But the next day, he made plans to hang out and he said that he doesnt want to lose me and wants to keep hanging out with me to get to know me and see if he wants me as a girlfriend. When he comes over, he is really sweet and he said that we shouldnt have sex anymore. I went away for the weekend and he hasnt called me for 3 days. I dont know what to do, should I call him? I dont want to sound needy or pressure him. Does he just need more time to get used to this new arrangement or am I just stupid and he really doesnt like me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2008): I am sure he likes you but love is another question and when it comes to love there are no questions. When someone is really interested they will come after that person. You deserve so much more. If it were me I would start working on recovering from this relationship. Learn and grow from it and prepare for a healthier one next time around. I know it's painful I have been there but the pain is worth being with someone in the end who is really interested in having a committed relationship. A book I found online at Barnes and Noble that saved my life is called, Life's Little How To Book. Give gives great tips on recovery, having fun being seeing, remaining desirable towards someone, getting what you want in a relationship and other valuable tips. From my similiar experience I think if he does call it is only to have sex and that's it. If he does contact you can have a serious talk with him. Let him know what you think, feel and want. See how he responds. If he is wishy washy about his responds avoid spending another minute. I hope this helps. Good luck!!
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