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writes:Hey i am 18 years old been married 8 months. My husband and i have trust issues. Not because of eachother but because of the way we have been done in pervious relationships. Well i have caught him talking to girls he went to high school with he's 19 and in the Marine Corp. I love him to death and don't want to think of him talkin to any other girl. Well right now i have a cell phone on my dads plan and well he wants to add me to his this weekend.(my husband does) And i asked to get on his verizon account to see how much it would be to get a phone on his account. Well at first he was ok with it and then all of the sudden he didn't want me on there. I'm guessing cause he know i can access text messages and his call list i dont know but he is acting really weired about it. And when i asked him why he didn't want me on there he just said nothing. Does anyone have any advice. It would really mean alot.
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reader, Redneckbabe63090 +, writes (7 October 2008):
Redneckbabe63090 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for the advise. i truely have some thinking to do. i love him to death and we have a 6 month old that i don't want to be raised between two parents or worse without one. but some changes have got to take place in order for us to work. We was fine when we was living together but now that he is stationed and i can't be up there with him it's taking a toll on our relationship. We are constantly argueing about stupid stuff. Before he left we was fine. So idk if it's cause i can't be up there right now or what. but thanks i seriously have some thinking to do.
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reader, TasteofIndia + ♥, writes (7 October 2008):
 Upon reading your reply (and thank you for it), you have shed new light on the situation.
Any fella who controls you that much is not a respectful person. If he has proven to be a cheater in the past and he is giving you this much suspicion now, I think it's time to really think about this relationship and whether you think it is truly healthy. It sounds a little toxic to me!
You are both young, and maybe he's just not exactly in the "settle down" place in life. While there is a chance that there is nothing to worry about in his phone, it sounds like there may be something to worry about your relationship.
I'm so sorry that you're in this sucky situation!!
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reader, Redneckbabe63090 +, writes (7 October 2008):
Redneckbabe63090 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionme not wanting him to talk to any of the girls he went to school with is not a trust issue...it's just he don't want me to talk to any of the guys i went to school with neither he made me delete ever guy out of my phone and off my myspace that i had went to school with since kindergraden. He cheated on the girl he dated before me so idk if i should trust him or not. I want to trust him more than anything. but i don't know if i should.
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reader, TasteofIndia + ♥, writes (6 October 2008):
It's not enough to be completely suspicious. There may be something sketchy in his phone, but it sounds like he's scared that he'll lose his privacy when he hands over his phone. Maybe he does chat with some friends from high school, and while they may be platonic, you won't be happy about it. Or, maybe he's been cheating on you this whole time - I don't know the guy, so I can't assure you that he is free of guilt.
I think you need to lighten up a little - asking your husband to not talk to any girls, even acquaintances from high school seems a little extreme. You need to work on these trust issues or else you will have a very tense marriage.
I hope that you and your husband have a very happy life together, I just think that you need to learn to trust each other. Good luck, sweetness!
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